105: The Perks & Pitfalls of Being an Enneagram 2 with my son Joey H. (Enneagram 2W1)

Today’s episode is special to me...because it’s with my son!⁣⁣Joey is an Enneagram 2: all heart—a beautiful, empathetic, compassionate person. A great connector of human beings and spirits.⁣⁣⁣Listen now⁣⁣⁣I coach a lot of 2s that struggle because they feel more than any other type on the Enneagram.⁣⁣Your greatest gift is oftentimes also your biggest thorn. With me, an 8, it’s my direct way of speaking. For Joey and other 2s, it’s their empathy. Today it serves him so well, but for a time it was very challenging.⁣⁣What Joey loves about being a 2.⁣⁣“In all my relationships, my empathetic nature is helpful. It creates deeper connections and opens up a lot of conversations people might not have with others, but it can definitely spread you too thin.⁣⁣I’ve had to learn how to balance the empathy by blocking out time for myself no matter what, to make sure my cup’s full before I fill someone else’s.”⁣⁣At a subconscious level, the 2’s core motive is to be of service to others.⁣⁣Somewhere along the line, you believed that this was what you needed to do in order to be worthy of love, acceptance, attention and approval.⁣⁣Having boundaries around that is the way to become a healthy incarnation of a 2. And Joey is the healthiest 2 I know.⁣