Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners | Attachment Styles with Genell Gorman

Have a question or comment? Send it to Kristin!Your childhood doesn’t disappear when you start dating...it gets activated.In this episode of Sex, Drugs, & Soul, I am joined by attachment and relational healing coach Genell Gorman for a candid, unscripted conversation focused on mother wounds, father wounds, attachment styles, CPTSD, and how early emotional experiences shape adult relationships.Together, we explore... • The “oh sh*t” moment when you realize your dating patterns mirror childhood wounds • How emotionally unavailable parents create anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment styles • Trauma bonding vs. genuine chemistry • Why chaos can be mistaken for love and how to break that cycle • Healing without becoming emotionally armored or hyper-independent • Whether you need to “heal first” or if heal occurs through relationships • Reparenting, nervous system regulation, and reclaiming your personal powerThis episode is for anyone navigating dating, intimacy, or healing, who is tired of repeating the same story and ready to choose love from a place regulation rather than longing.Timestamps:00:00 Intro & grounding02:20 The “oh sh*t” moment — childhood shaping adult love05:50 Father wounds & emotionally unavailable partners09:40 Loss, abandonment, & nervous system imprinting13:20 Trauma bonding &  attraction to unavailable partners17:30 CPTSD, codependency, & self-abandonment22:00 Anxious vs. avoidant dynamics27:30 Isolation, hyper-independence, & fears of intimacy 32:00 Chemistry vs slow-burn safety36:00 Chaos does not equal love41:00 Cutting off parents vs. establishing boundaries & compassion47:30 Inner child healing & reparenting51:30 Can relationships heal us?55:00 Final reflections & encouragementConnect with Genell:https://www.genellgorman.com/https://www.instagram.com/genell.gorman/Support the showConnect with Kristin:WebsiteInstagramFacebook YouTubeKristin’s Book:Sex, Drugs, & Soul Spotify AudiobookSubscribe:YouTubeSpotifyApplePeptides:Oral Quicksilver GHK/Copper Peptidehttps://elliemd.com/kristinbirdwellMicrodose 🍄 https://myfeelium.co/password: opensesameCode: kristin20 for 20% off