109. Why Weight Loss Is So Hard in Midlife: The Emotional Side No One Talks About

 This episode is the kind of conversation that happens when two coaches stop trying to check all the boxes—and start talking about what really matters. And it's not all about the food or exercise. Jessica Mitchell is back for the third time, and this one hits differently. We're talking about how both of us have shifted away from only focusing on food and exercise to helping women heal what's going on beneath the surface. From emotional resistance to fear of being seen, to what happens when you're stuck in that loop of knowing what to do but still not doing it—this is the stuff that REALLY matters. We also open up about our own personal stories, what tapping (EFT) has helped us release, and why we believe weight loss is NEVER just about weight. About Jessica Mitchell Jessica Mitchell is a Corporate-Trained Certified Health Coach and Certified EFT Tapping Practitioner. With over 20 years of experience supporting women—and her own 65-pound weight loss story—Jessica helps midlife women reframe how they think about their weight and health, so they can experience long-term transformation, inside and out. Episode Highlights [00:01] – Welcome back, Jessica How we met through tapping, and how our friendship—and coaching—has grown since. [03:49] – Our old coaching style (and why it had to change) We both confess to once teaching "just build good habits" and how that missed the deeper truth. [08:29] – The real stats on dieting and weight regain Why around 80% of people regain the weight—and how that changes everything. [11:00] – Motivation isn't the problem Why women often show up for coaching but still struggle to follow through. [14:35] – Why women don't invest in themselves From mom guilt to old beliefs about self-worth, this one's personal. [18:11] – The grief of weight loss Yes, grief. We talk about body changes, fear of being seen, and the emotional cost of shrinking. [22:19] – Our tapping journeys and childhood roots Stories of candy, warm Sprite, shame, abandonment, and how it all shaped our relationships with food. [32:00] – Midlife women: strong, but still people pleasing The messy truth about boundaries, resentment, and why we sometimes sabotage our own health. [37:16] – 80% is a win Why perfectionism is killing your progress—and how to give yourself permission to just show up. [42:51] – Why we coach the way we do now Real-life stories of transformation that came from slowing down and addressing the emotional root. [46:48] – The role of fear in all of it How fear holds women back—and how tapping helps you choose peace instead. Connect with Jessica Mitchell Website: https://iamjessicamitchell.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iam_jessicamitchell/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamjessicamitchell?lang=en Final Thoughts from Kim You don't need a stricter plan. You need a softer approach. One that includes your emotions, your past, your beliefs—and your heart. Be gentle with yourself today. That's where the real change begins. If you like the Emotional Eats podcast, please subscribe, follow, and leave a 5-star rating and review. Tag us on social media—I would be so grateful. This is not a sponsored episode. I provide affiliate links to my viewers for discounts. When you buy, I receive a small commission to help support my podcast and channel. Note: The information in this podcast is not intended to replace working with your doctor, medical provider, or mental health professional. 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