113: Getting Out of the Crazy Cycle

This week, I’m joined by the wise and grounded Jenni Rae for a conversation that’s going to hit home for so many of us—how to break free from the crazy cycle in relationships. You know the one: where the more we try to protect ourselves, the more disconnected and misunderstood we feel. Jenni shares her story of rebuilding after the loss of a child sent ripple effects of trauma that lasted years and nearly ended her marriage...and how recognizing her own patterns helped her stop reacting from fear and start leading with curiosity. We talk about what it means to show up from a place of groundedness, even when your nervous system is freaking out. If you've ever found yourself stuck in the same arguments, miscommunications, or shutdown moments—you’re not alone, and this one’s for you. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ What the “crazy cycle” actually is and how it forms ➡️ How to repair after emotional shutdowns or blow-ups ➡️ The difference between regulating for connection vs. control ➡️ Grounding tools that actually work mid-conflict ➡️ Rewiring your nervous system so love feels safe again ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: Loved this episode? I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— ➡️ Follow Jenni Rae 🔗 Instagram at @jenniraeoates | https://www.instagram.com/jenniraeoates/Facebook @jenni rae oates https://www.facebook.com/thejenniraeoatesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JenniRaeOatesLinked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenni-rae-oates-7400a7215/ Her e-Book: https://jennirae.com/freefromthecrazy