113: The Stances: The Yin & Yang of the Enneagram

We’re already halfway through January—can you believe it?⁣⁣Maybe you were one of those people who started off 2021 by saying “I’m gonna do a bunch of epic shit this year.” Then you went on social media or were chatting with friends and all of a sudden the comparison kicked in—and you went into self-sabotage, shame, isolation, or burnout.⁣⁣⁣Listen now⁣⁣⁣At the beginning of January, I was feeling it too.⁣⁣I woke up one day and was feeling blue—and I wasn’t sure why.⁣⁣I tend to work a lot and don’t take enough time to play. That’s because early on in my life when I played, things went bad. But now I have all the proof in the world that when I play more, I make more.⁣⁣Even though I know this, I still resist it.⁣⁣That’s because I fall into the trap of the “doing more means I make more” mindset. And this is a common theme for us all, although it doesn’t look the same for everyone.⁣⁣When going into comparison mode, one of the things that allows me to keep myself in check are the Stances.⁣⁣The Stances define our social style of how we get what we want or need.⁣⁣It’s a look at how we move through the world based on the wounding we experienced in childhood.⁣⁣What happens is we lose the ability to balance all three of your intelligence centers: the thinking, feeling and doing. This leads to one of those centers being more repressed than the others.⁣⁣By knowing your Stance for your type, you’ll learn how to tap into your repressed center.⁣