114. Anxiety vs Intuition: How to Tell Red Flags From Fear and Regulate First with Kaytlyn Gilner

In this episode of Creating Sunshine, Sarah sits down with Kaytlyn Gilner, host of the Not So Dumb Blonde podcast, to talk about what trauma really looks like in everyday life and how it impacts anxiety, relationships, and self-trust. Kaytlyn shares practical tools (including DBT skills) to help you step out of people-pleasing, stop self-gaslighting, and learn the difference between anxiety vs intuition and red flags vs fear.In this episode, we talk about:The origin story behind Not So Dumb Blonde and why stereotypes can shape identityWhy trauma is not always “big” and how “little T trauma” builds over timeHow nervous system dysregulation affects your window of toleranceWhy women minimize their pain by comparing it to people who “had it worse”What people-pleasing is really protecting you fromHow DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) helps with emotional regulation and communicationThe power of shifting from black-and-white thinking to the “middle path”How to tell the difference between anxiety and intuitionWhy you cannot access intuition when your nervous system is not regulatedParenting tools that teach kids emotional safety (and what “good enough parent” really means)Self-abandonment, healing, and making yourself a priority without guiltConnect with KaytlynInstagram: @notsodumbblonde_podYouTube: @kaytlyngilnerPodcast (Apple): https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/not-so-dumb-blonde/id1684770191Podcast (Spotify): https://open.spotify.com/show/2pDaiBvnq6Oelv998oU4Dr?si=ef83fa1e8b2848e7Freebie: https://www.therapykay.com/freebieThank you for listening to Creating Sunshine! Your support means the world to me, and I'm so grateful you're part of this community.If this episode resonated with you, I'd love it if you could take a moment to rate and review the show on your favorite podcast platform. Your reviews help other listeners discover Creating Sunshine and find the encouragement they need on their own journeys.Don't forget to hit that follow button so you never miss an episode- there's so much more sunshine to create together!Let's stay connected:Your Next Chapter (1:1 Mindset Coaching)Follow me on InstagramShop my cups on InstagramJoin my email listMindset Reset ChallengeGet your free Sunshine Moments downloadRemember, even in the darkest moments, there's always a way to create a little sunshine. Until next time, keep shining bright!