#115 Healing Trauma, Reclaiming Self-Trust, and Building Real Connection with Tori Jenae

Healing Trauma, Reclaiming Self-Trust, and Building Real Connection with Tori JenaeTrauma-informed relationship and confidence coach Tori Jenae shares how complex childhood trauma shaped her nervous system and dating patterns, including perfectionism, control, low-grade anxiety, and avoidant “push-pull” intimacy. She explains how early attachments create “love maps,” why trauma is stored in the body, and critiques talk therapy that stops at the mind, emphasizing somatic work and safety in relationship as key to healing. Tori recounts leaving home at 17, breaking a family lineage of addiction, and finding safety with her ex-husband, with whom she was married for 20 years. The conversation also covers antidepressants and holistic health factors, the loneliness epidemic and monetized intimacy, what healthy intimacy feels like, ways couples rebuild connection, and her “Reclamation Method” and ABCs of healing: awareness, beliefs, and clearing.00:00 Meet Tori Jenae00:48 Early Trauma Signs02:57 Love Maps and Attachment05:07 Breaking Family Cycles09:32 Resilience and Purpose12:40 Learning to Trust16:56 Healing Through the Body21:43 Holistic Mental Health28:38 Loneliness and Lost Intimacy32:14 Loneliness Needs People32:31 Dating Apps Reality Check34:08 What Matters Most35:04 Stop Living Through Phones37:33 Success Yet Unworthy40:33 Happiness Inside You43:06 Reclamation Method Basics45:34 ABCs of Healing51:08 Therapist Boundaries54:12 Healthy Love Today55:41 Rekindling Long Term Intimacy01:02:16 Never Stop Dating01:03:17 Planning the Future01:04:44 Closing Thankshttps://www.torijenae.com/opt-in-d7dec567-5a03-4245-b2fa-929599de006ahttps://www.torijenae.com/https://www.instagram.com/tori.jenae/https://www.linkedin.com/in/tori-jenae-ma-psych-a6051766/