#12 - Parenting, Screen Time, and Raising Independent Kids with Alyson Schafer

Podcast Timestamps & Topics History of Alysons Work @ 2:00 Screen Time, Homework, Kids needing to learn how to be bored!! @ 10:00 Exceptions to the rule. Allowing our kids treats outside of the general rules @13:30 Kids learn by testing the rules and pushing the boundaries of the world. They learn through experience, trial and error. @15:00 Adapting our rules to the context of a situation. @18:00 Parents as captains of the family ship, being the boss, but not being bossy. @22:00 Triangulation in Family Conflicts - @ 24:00 Helping your child find their voice - @ 27:00 Parenting guilt. @29:00 Understanding what our kids need in the moment depending on what is driving their behaviour. @35:00 1. Attention Seeking 2. Power Struggles 3. Revenge 4. Avoidance. Addressing Learning Opportunities when Stress is on the Rise! @ 37:00 Apologizing to our Kids and taking Responsibility for Poor Parenting @ 42:00 How much do we Influence our Kids? We're not Masters of the Universe! @ 45:00 Siblings & Conflict vs Disagreement @ 50:00 Youth Mental Health Crisis @ 60:00 Socializing our Kids & Maintaining their Authentic Self @ 65:00 Loving Kindness to help our Kids develop Social Skills @ 70:00 Spirituality and Family Wellbeing @ 75:00 Acclaimed Parenting Expert Alyson Schafer is an internationally acclaimed parenting expert, family counsellor, and bestselling author. Audiences can count on Alyson to inspire and transform lives. Armed with years of research, clinical and field experience, Alyson provides a fresh and positive understanding of family dynamics along with actionable solutions that will give parents the skills and confidence needed to face modern life challenges. The end goal is to raise resilient, caring and capable kids. Alyson has presented 3 Tedx Talks including the inaugural TedXKids in Belguim. She has penned 3 bestselling parenting books with HarperCollinsCanada:  Breaking the Good Mom Myth; Honey, I Wrecked the Kids; and her latest, Ain't Misbehavin' which have been translated into Russian, Korean, Bulgarian and Turkish. She has also been featured in such notable publications such as Cosmopolitan, Real Simple, Parent Magazine, Reader's Digest, The Washington Post and more. Alyson also shares her wisdom weekly as the resident expert columnist for Huffpost Parents Canada. As the media's go-to person in Canada, Alyson is a frequently contributor on most national outlets. She also hosted TV's "The Parenting Show" for 8 seasons. Brands call on Alyson for her insights into family life and has worked with such notables as Bank of Montreal, Huggies, Kijiji, Kelloggs, Facebook, Labatts and more. Find Alyson here - https://alysonschafer.com/ https://www.facebook.com/AlysonSchaferParentingExpert https://twitter.com/alysonschafer https://www.youtube.com/user/AlysonSchaferVideos Disclaimer Professional medical care and psychotherapeutic services are not offered on this Youtube channel. It is for general informational purposes only and does not constitute the practice of medicine, nursing or other professional health care services, including the giving of medical advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is formed. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast is at the user's own risk. The content of this podcast is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their health care professionals for any such condition Seeking professional support is encouraged if you think you have an issue and that you want help.