121: The Voices in Your Head Aren’t Crazy—They’re Clues to Your Healing

Kyle Spears is back on the podcast and we're diving deep into parts work - exploring how the different voices in your head aren't something to fear, but actually roadmaps to your deepest healing. If you've ever wondered why you have different parts inside of you (think Inside Out the movie), this conversation will blow your mind. Kyle even walks me through a live parts work session on the podcast - it gets real, vulnerable, and incredibly healing as you witness firsthand how parts work can transform shame into compassion. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ What parts work is and how Internal Family Systems (IFS) differs from other healing modalities ➡️ The three types of parts: exiles, managers, and firefighters - and how they develop to protect us ➡️ Why your inner critic isn't the enemy (and how it's actually trying to keep you safe) ➡️ How "firefighter" parts show up when we're overwhelmed - from scrolling to substances to self-sabotage ➡️ A live parts work demonstration where Kyle helps me dialogue with my inner critic and discover what she really wants ➡️ The 8 C's of the core self and why curiosity and compassion are essential for healing ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: Here’s the replay link for UNSPOKEN!  https://tinyurl.com/BeckyAsteUNSPOKEN I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FREE Higher Self Guided Visualization - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://vimeo.com/948846163⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] If you enjoyed this episode with Kyle, here’s his other one: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-breakthrough-blueprint-with-becky-aste-for-the/id1676348200?i=1000627985444 XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— ➡️ Follow Kyle Spears 🔗 Kyle Spears is a licensed therapist specializing in Internal Family Systems (IFS), dedicated to helping individuals heal through deeper self-understanding and compassion. With a background in faith-based counseling and trauma-informed care, Kyle integrates the transformative principles of IFS to guide clients in reconnecting with their core Self and unburdening wounded inner parts. As a passionate speaker, therapist, and educator, Kyle brings clarity to complex emotional dynamics, offering listeners practical tools for inner healing, emotional regulation, and relational growth. His approach blends clinical insight with spiritual depth, creating space for authentic, soul-centered transformation. Whether he's unpacking the IFS model, exploring the intersection of psychology and faith, or sharing stories from the therapy room, Kyle offers thought-provoking conversations that inspire healing from the inside out. www.youtube.com/@truthtraumatheologywww.truthtraumatheology.com