122: Dealing with Your Insecurities using the Enneagram

I don’t care if you know your type...⁣⁣...or even work with the Enneagram professionally—this stuff is hard. Personal development and self growth and doing the work is never for the weary.⁣⁣Listen now⁣⁣⁣I was originally mistyped as a 3.⁣⁣And me and 3s did not get along. I viewed a lot of them as weak for needing attention and low-key was envious that they made things look easy—especially when it came to vulnerability.⁣⁣My friend Tiffany has a hard time letting people take care of her.⁣⁣But when we were together in California recently, I was cooking and cleaning for her, and in exchange, she helped me with strategy for my business, because I am the worst self-marketer of all time. You know who’s good at marketing? 3s.⁣⁣But as an 8, I don’t like to be questioned.⁣⁣And that’s what Tiffany did: she asked me questions about a new program I want to offer, how it should be structured based on my current programs, etc. etc...⁣⁣Tiffany is a 6, the Loyalist, and naturally asks a lot of questions. And when she goes into interrogation mode—which comes from a good place—I get triggered. It makes me feel weak, and like I don’t have things handled.⁣⁣Listen to this week’s episode to learn what I realized...⁣⁣⁣Quotes:⁣⁣1:33 ⁣Personal development and self growth and doing the “work” on ourselves is never for the weary. ⁣⁣4:02 ⁣I know that there is more for me to do with all of you.⁣⁣6:30⁣Using the Enneagram has allowed me to be a great marketer but I am terrible self- marketer. ⁣⁣10:37 ⁣As an Enneagram 8, I assume if you’re asking me tons of questions that you think I’m weak and don’t have this handled and that is like the death of an 8. ⁣⁣12:46⁣I know, without a question or a doubt that I am the very best at what I do. ⁣⁣14:13 ⁣All my 6’s out there you guys are like prepared for worst case scenario 5x over. ⁣⁣15:07 ⁣Sometimes we joke about things and poke fun at ourselves to hide some of our most insecure moments. ⁣⁣15:53⁣We are all going to be messy at first at things, even things that we are really good at. ⁣⁣18:13 ⁣Each Enneagram type has something that is an insecurity that holds us back. ⁣⁣19:14 ⁣I like to have you not see me coming, that’s where I feel most comfortable, and that being said I also know that being our most comfortable won’t allow things to grow. ⁣⁣