124. Narcissism Explained: What to Watch For in Relationships

Send Gemma a message A listener asks: “What exactly is narcissism and how can I tell if I’m dating someone with narcissistic traits?” In this episode, Gemma breaks narcissism down into plain English. You’ll learn why it’s best understood as a personality style on a spectrum, how narcissistic coping modes show up through self-absorption and poor tolerance for your subjectivity and the concrete signs to look for in the early dating stage. We also cover boundaries, reciprocity and practical ways to tune into - and trust - your internal radar.What you’ll learnNarcissism 101: spectrum vs diagnosed NPD; why “narcissistic modes” matterThe central feature: self-absorption (and why it erodes empathy & reciprocity)Early dating indicators: shallow interest, interrupting, image obsession, contempt/arrogance, running down exes, boundary-pushingReality-checks for boundaries & differences: how they handle “no,” cancellations and disagreementWhy narcissistic dynamics chip away at self-worth and how to protect yoursA calm process for getting to know someone across contexts (and why to go slow)Try this - self-check prompts on a dateDo I feel seen, heard and not rushed?Can I say “no” or disagree without payback or sulking?Is attention reciprocal over time (not just in bursts)?Do their words match behaviour when it costs them something?Resources & linksDownload: Dating With Insight - After-Date Reflection Guide (free)Join the Love Wisely priority list for the next roundAsk Gemma a question for the podcast: [email protected] this helped, please leave a review on your podcast app - it really supports the show.Support the show🎓FREE LIVE MASTERCLASS - Why smart women override red flags in dating😊Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List  ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY Connect with Me 📩[email protected]  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here