125 | How a Teen Can Talk to Her Mom About Anxiety Without Faking It {IN THE CAR WITH MOM}

What if you are both trying to prove something to each other? If there are two of you in that car right now, you are probably both performing. Mom is working hard to look like she has the answers. Daughter is working just as hard to look like she is fine. And you are sitting three feet apart, burning yourselves out trying to be okay in front of each other. Here is the part that gets me: all that proving is not doing the actual thing. Nobody is getting the support she needs. Nobody is learning the skills she is missing. It is just two tired people managing an image. In this episode I am giving you one tool, and it is the same tool for both of you. It is called Pause the Proving, and there is a spot in the middle where I am going to ask you to hit pause and actually say something out loud to each other. In the car. Yes, really. And before anybody gets defensive, I will tell you about the time I completely missed panic attacks in my own kid, while working as a school counselor who spots anxiety in teen girls for a living. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why moms and daughters both end up performing, and how it quietly raises anxiety instead of lowering it The one fear underneath both sides of the car (it is the same fear wearing different clothes) The Pause the Proving tool, with a specific move for mom and a specific move for daughter Why “I do not have all the answers” makes you stronger in her eyes, not weaker What honest vulnerability actually looks like for a teen girl (hint: it is one sentence, not a breakdown) Your one step this week: One true sentence. That is it. One of you says one honest thing to the other one before Friday. It can be at the kitchen counter with your back turned, loading the dishwasher. That counts. Coming up Friday: We are talking about what peace in the Bible actually is, and why it is not a feeling you sit around waiting for. Perfect timing now that the school year shine has worn off. xo, Kristen Follow or subscribe wherever you listen so you never miss an episode. LET’S CONNECT! Free PEACE Playbook: anxiouschristianteen.com/peace Free community: anxiouschristianteen.com/community What Type of Anxious Teen Girl Are You?: anxiouschristianteen.com/quiz