#127 - Are You Measuring Your Husband’s Sins Against Your Own (and You’re Not As Bad)? 3 Steps to Taking Responsibility for Your Own Sin

Episode 127 of the The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness podcast, hosted by Lydia Santos - Christian Wife Coach, Marriage Ministry Leader, Boymom, titled "#127 - Are You Measuring Your Husband’s Sins Against Your Own (and You’re Not As Bad)? 3 Steps to Taking Responsibility for Your Own Sin" was published on July 9, 2023 and runs 24 minutes.

July 9, 2023 ·24m · The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness

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Summary

You think you’ve gotten away with it… maybe he didn’t notice how you side-skirted the truth. He was so focused on getting his point across that he ignored the eye roll you just gave him. Man, he sure gets angry. Did you hear what he said?! He knows his actions were hurtful but he keeps doing them! You walk away from the conversation and around the house the rest of the day quietly fuming about what he did wrong. But girl, aren’t you tired of your own reactions? Aren’t you sick of your outbursts or your attitude? Caught in a cycle of pitting your sins against his and keeping tabs on who’s better? You keep a running list and his is pages long, while yours could apparently fit on a post-it note. Last week we talked about how to make an effective apology, and today’s topic is along the same lines, but perhaps even a precursor to making an apology or… an apology at a deeper level, on a broader scale. This goes beyond the in-the-moment or minor mistakes or mean words to say you’re sorry for, but zooms out a bit to an overall view of the issue really going on… and spoiler alert: the record shows the score’s a little closer than you might’ve thought. But this ONE thing we’re talking about today will help you begin to put an end to or slow down the tit-for-tat, the record-keeping, finger-pointing, and blaming. Loads of Love, Lydia --> FOLLOW so you don't miss a show! --> Leave a 5-star rating & written review --> Leave me a SpeakPipe question! --> Join the Christian Wife and Marriage Facebook community

Episode Description

You think you’ve gotten away with it… maybe he didn’t notice how you side-skirted the truth. He was so focused on getting his point across that he ignored the eye roll you just gave him.

Man, he sure gets angry. Did you hear what he said?! He knows his actions were hurtful but he keeps doing them! You walk away from the conversation and around the house the rest of the day quietly fuming about what he did wrong.

But girl, aren’t you tired of your own reactions?

Aren’t you sick of your outbursts or your attitude?

Caught in a cycle of pitting your sins against his and keeping tabs on who’s better? You keep a running list and his is pages long, while yours could apparently fit on a post-it note.

Last week we talked about how to make an effective apology, and today’s topic is along the same lines, but perhaps even a precursor to making an apology or… an apology at a deeper level, on a broader scale. This goes beyond the in-the-moment or minor mistakes or mean words to say you’re sorry for, but zooms out a bit to an overall view of the issue really going on… and spoiler alert: the record shows the score’s a little closer than you might’ve thought.

But this ONE thing we’re talking about today will help you begin to put an end to or slow down the tit-for-tat, the record-keeping, finger-pointing, and blaming.

Loads of Love, Lydia

--> FOLLOW so you don't miss a show!

--> Leave a 5-star rating & written review

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