129 | Can't Talk to Your Mom About Anxiety? Ask This {IN THE CAR WITH MOM}

This one is for both of you. Put it on speaker. There is a conversation you two have been circling for months. Both of you know it is sitting there. Neither one of you opens it. So you get the forty minute drive and about ninety seconds of real information, and everybody keeps breathing. Here is what is actually happening. One of you is scared of being a disappointment. The other one is scared of not knowing how to help. Same fear, two different outfits. And “fine” is a relief for both of you, which is exactly why it keeps working. So today we are facing the elephant in the room. Or the car. Or wherever y’all are listening from. This is a short one, but I am going to give each of you one question and make you actually answer it out loud, right there, to each other. Not tonight. Now. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why “how was your day” gets you “fine” every single time, and what to ask instead The one question your daughter is scared to ask you, and why counting to ten before you answer it changes everything The one question you are scared to answer, and why “I don’t know” isn’t the truth The three rules that keep this from turning into a fight in a moving vehicle: no fixing, no defending, no “but” Why being quiet was never a verdict on your parenting, and what to do with what she tells you Your one thing this week: Mom, next time you see it on her face, do the specific thing she named in the car. Do not improve it, do not add to it, just do it. Doll, tell her one thing you were going to round down. Just one. Friday - doll, that one is yours. We are getting into the stressed out feeling you cannot explain, where somebody asks what is wrong and you have got nothing. There is pressure on you nobody else can see, and I am going to help you name it. xo, Kristen Follow the show wherever you are listening. It is free, and it is how these episodes find the next mama and the next girl who need this conversation in their car. LET’S CONNECT! Free PEACE Playbook: anxiouschristianteen.com/peace Free community: anxiouschristianteen.com/community What Type of Anxious Teen Girl Are You?: anxiouschristianteen.com/quiz