129. Perfectionism and black & white thinking in relationships

Does your brain have a very all-or-nothing way of looking at yourself and your relationships?You either did it perfectly or you're terrible.You're a good friend or a bad friend.Your partner either says the exact right thing or they must not care about you at all.If so - you're not alone!Our brains are actually predisposed to be very black & white in the way they think - preferring things to fit neatly into set categories - leaving very little room for nuance or shades of grey.In today's episode I'm covering:A recent example of my own perfectionist brainHow black & white thinking impacts our relationship with ourselvesHow it impacts our relationships with othersHow it can mess with our expectations and overall enjoyment of a relationshipAnd some easy thought work hacks to take your brain to a more nuanced place!Mentioned in the episodeEmail me about coaching opportunities: [email protected]