Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

When someone is upset with you or you suspect they might be annoyed about something you’ve done - do you instantly feel guilty?When you see someone experiencing negative emotion - do you feel like it’s your job to try and fix it? And feel super uncomfortable until you know they’re okay again?If so - this episode is for YOU.I’m talking all about the difference between empathy and taking responsibility for other people’s emotions.And how to let go of responsibility, while still being a compassionate friend, partner, or family member. Mentioned in the episode:1:1 coaching with Rebecca - [email protected] Mind Drama Bootcamp - Use code 'SUN' to get 30% off

When I was at my most anxious in my relationships - I realised I had been depending on things outside of me being a certain way for me to feel safe, secure or calm. Can you relate?If so - I’m going to be talking today about the difference between internal and external safety.And I’m going to offer you concrete exercises to do to start building your internal safety muscle.So you can feel emotionally safe and secure - regardless of what’s going on outside of you.Mentioned in the episode:1:1 coaching with Rebecca - email [email protected]

Are you facing rejection?A setback at work?A difficult friendship dynamic?An uncertain outcome?Someone who keeps crossing your boundaries?Whatever feels tough right now - I want to offer you a question that is going to transform the way you approach it. Mentioned in the episode:1:1 coaching with Rebecca - [email protected]

This week, I’m answering two questions from listeners.The first is all about taking back a cheating, avoidant partner.The second is dealing with a jealous partner who has very different thoughts around a friendship with an ex.Mentioned in the episode:Join my email listWork with me 1:1 - [email protected]

People that work with me learn to STOP using the phrase ‘They made me feel…’Because they’re finally able to take back responsibility for how they feel and respond to any situation in their life…And I call this taking radical responsibility for your own feelings.It’s something I did years ago - and it changed my life and relationships forever.And in today’s episode I’m going to help you understand what it really means to take radical responsibility AND how to start doing it today!Mentioned in the episode:1:1 coaching with Rebecca

Are you struggling with resentment in your relationships right now?Maybe it’s a friend that’s always late.A partner that doesn’t pull their weight around the house.A mother in law that keeps asking for too much of your partner’s time.Whatever it is - this episode is going to help you step out of resentment, and back into self-responsibility and self-empowerment.Mentioned in the episode:Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - £991:1 coaching with Rebecca - [email protected]

Today I’m answering real life questions from listeners covering two topics.1) How do I know the difference between a real red flag vs my anxious attachment?2) How do I navigate jealousy in a friendship trio?Ready? Let’s dive in!Mentioned in the episode:Get 10% off 1:1 coaching in May- email [email protected]

The fear of settling, of choosing wrong, or of missing out on a ‘better’ partner is one that plagues so many anxious brains in relationships.So I’m spending today’s episode talking about it.I’m going to help you define settling vs embracing an imperfect partner...AND help you call out your anxious brain’s perhaps unhelpful expectations when it comes to romantic relationships - so you can make a decision from an aligned, grounded place.Mentioned in the episode:Enquire about 1:1 coaching opportunities - [email protected] Mind Drama Bootcamp - Digital course

Have you ever wanted to build your self-esteem and think more positively about yourself, but then a little voice in your head says… But what if I become delusional?What if I start believing I’m attractive, when the truth is I’m not?What if I start believing I’m good enough - and it turns out not to be true?If so, this episode is for you! I'm going to teach you:Why you're already delusional ;)How your current beliefs are creating your identityAnd how to actually change your beliefs so you can become the person you want to beMentioned in the episode:1:1 coaching - email: [email protected] Mind Drama Bootcamp

I have struggled with anxiety for over a decade - since I was a teenager.And finding ways of understanding & managing my own fearful brain, and the fearful minds of my clients, continues to be a fascination of mine. So in today’s episode - I’m sharing 7 of the biggest lessons I’ve learned about anxiety over the last few years.And offering you some perspective shifts to help you change the way you think about your anxiety - and approach in times of uncertainty.Mentioned in the episode:Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - discount code [BOOTCAMP]1:1 coaching

How often have you found yourself thinking: Maybe if I feel this anxious, I’m with the wrong person? If I was with right person, I wouldn’t get triggered… right?Well in today’s episode - I’m talking about how that isn’t always the case.And helping you to reframe this thought into something a little more empowering and productive.Mentioned in the episode:The Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - £99 (use discount code 'BOOTCAMP' for 20% off)Information about 1:1 coaching - [email protected]

In today's episode, I'm answering real-life questions from listeners and coaching them on their mind-drama from afar!We cover topics including:Navigating old friendships when your interests have changedWhen the person you're dating won't say 'I love you'How to handle insecurity around a drop in sweet text messagesAnd feeling unsettled when someone is emotionally distantEven if you're not in one of these exact situations - the way I coach around them is bound to offer you something to take away for your own brain and unique relationship struggles.I only offer my email list the opportunity to write in with questions for these episodes.Don't want to miss out next time?CLICK HERE to get on my list.Want more support?Find out more about 1:1 coaching.

How often have you asked yourself: Am I too much? Is texting twice too much? Is initiating seeing them again too much? Do you often worry that being open and honest about your feelings means you’re ‘too much’? If so - this episode is for YOU!Mentioned in the episode:Find out about coaching with Rebecca - email: [email protected] the your free Self Esteem Building Kit - HERE

We’ve all been told a thousand times that our thoughts create our realities...But when life feels hard, our partners seem uncaring, or the world feels like a hopeless place… it can be an easy thing to forget.So in today’s episode - I want to help you understand exactly how your brain shapes and distorts your experience of reality...So that you can start to notice the impact of it in your own life, and start calling bullsh*t on the narratives that are keeping you stuck.Ready? Let’s dive in!Mentioned in the episode:1:1 coaching with Rebecca - get the details

Maybe it’s a friend you've known for years - and you feel like you’re the one always reaching out to check in or arrange plans. Or maybe it’s someone you’ve been on a few dates with and you feel like it’s always you confirming the next date night. Or perhaps it’s a family member who always calls you to vent about their problems, but the minute you need support and want to talk - they’re suddenly unavailable. Whatever the relationship - we have ALL experienced some form of one-sided relationship.So in today’s episode, I’m going to be outlining 5 uncomfortable truths about one-sided relationships that no one will be straight with you about...AND I’m going to help you manage your mind in whatever situation you’re facing, so you can approach the relationship as your most secure self.Mentioned in the episode:Secure Reframes Guide - FREEEnquire about 1:1 coaching - [email protected]

If you’ve ever experienced betrayal in a relationship - you’ll know first hand how painful it can be.And I’m dedicating today’s episode to talk about it. Covering things like:Handling the shock of betrayalWhy the brain obsesses over needing to know every detailThe meaning we make about ourselves and the futureShould you stay or leave?How trust is rebuilt (and why self-trust matters most)Mentioned in the episode:Processing Emotions MeditationEnquire about 1:1 coaching - [email protected]

Think more positively. Your thoughts create your reality. Just don’t sweat the small stuff.All great advice - but hard to implement when you’re in the habit of feeling like a victim to your brain and the stories it tells you.So in today’s episode I’m going to help you shift from being in the passenger seat, to being back in the driver’s seat of your brain...So that you can create the kind of experience of your relationship and life that you truly want to have.Mentioned in the episode:Download my Secure Reframes Guide HEREEnquire about 1:1 coaching spots for March

Do you ever wonder if you and the person you’re dating are actually just incompatible? Maybe you know you have some mind drama and insecurities to clear up - but also question if… maybe I’m just with the wrong person?If so - this episode is for you!March 1:1 coaching spotsEmail me directly at [email protected] to get all the details and book a free 30 min consult!

Are you terrified of being cheated on? If so - today’s episode is for you. I’m talking all about the deeper beliefs fuelling the fear of being cheated on.Some will resonate with you, others won’t. But if the fear of being cheated on is something that keeps you up at night - this episode is going to help you truly understand why that is. And what needs to change to overcome it.Mentioned in this episode:Get in touch about 1:1 coaching opportunities - [email protected]

Most of us are familiar with what it’s like to feel insecure. And you may find yourself wishing or saying out loud that you want to work on feeling more secure.Most of us go about creating feelings of security all wrong - which is why it doesn't work.So in today's episode I'm talking about:Where people go wrong when they try to feel more secureWhat being more secure actually meansAnd the one thing to work on to build genuine feelings of securityMentioned in the episode:Secure Connections 101 - 12 week group coaching programme detailsSign up for Secure Connections 101 NOWEmail directly to ask questions or enquire about 1:1 coaching

I want to give you a little insight as to what coaching can look like for real life people - with real life relationship struggles. And so I’m using the example of a past client of mine who felt triggered when she found out her partner watches porn.Even if you can’t relate to that specific anxiety - I encourage you to listen anyway...Because you're going to learn how to:Separate facts from storiesClean up your own fears and insecuritiesAnd show up to relationship triggers as your most secure, intentional selfMentioned in the episode:Sign up to my 12 week group coaching programme / Get more detailsUse discount code 'SC10' for 10% off before midnight GMT on Friday 23rd!Find out more about 1:1 coaching - [email protected]

Do you find yourself becoming obsessed with people that are hot and cold towards you - while ignoring the people that are consistently available and there for you?Do you feel like your romantic relationship or even friendships are the focus of your entire world - and if there could be a problem in one of them - it’s like your entire world is crumbling and you can’t focus on anything else?Do you often feel jealous and on edge in relationships? Like your brain is just scanning for signs that you’re about to be rejected?If so - you’re likely stuck in the validation cycle - and I’m going to talk about why it’s happening and how to finally create a different experience of relationships.Mentioned in the episode:Overcome Your Fear of Rejection - Free masterclass12 week group coaching programme - DETAILSContact me directly about 1:1 coaching opportunities

When you feel anxious or insecure, do you jump straight to action?Perhaps re-reading your messages? Checking when they were last online? Or messaging your group chat?Do you keep repeating the same anxious patterns over and over - and do you keep vowing to yourself you’re going to stop but - never the less, the patterns keep repeating? If so - you’re likely missing a vital skill. I’m going to teach you all about it in this episode.Mentioned in the episode:Enquire about 1:1 coaching - [email protected] Your Thoughts Cheat SheetSign up for my Overcome Your Fear of Rejection masterclass

Do other people’s happiness tend to get put before your own?Does the thought of being alone terrify you? And do you feel like you cling to relationships with others in an attempt to feel safe?If so - you might be stuck in the habit of self abandonment. Let’s talk about it!Email directly about 1:1 coaching - [email protected]

Have you set some goals or resolutions for 2026? And are you filled with hope for the year ahead?Or do you kind of think resolutions are pointless.. Because you never succeed at them anyway?Whichever camp you land in - in this episode I’m talking all about why you don’t need a new YOU in 2026...And why what you actually need is a new relationship with the you you already have.I’m talking all about:Why change often doesn’t happenThe perfectionist fantasy trapAnd the real resolutions we should all be committing to in the new yearMentioned in the episode:[email protected] - enquire about 1:1 coaching in 2026!

Are you constantly worrying about what other people think?Are they mad at you?Do they like you?Did they think what you said at dinner was stupid? Or insensitive?In today’s episode - I’m talking about the simple, yet powerful skill we need to master to FINALLY stop worrying so much about what other people think.Download my 'Self Esteem Building Kit'.Email about 1:1 coaching in January 2026.

Does the idea that your relationship could one day end send you into a spiral of anxiety? Do you tend to ruminate over worst case scenarios - panicking, then feeling momentary relief, only to find a new thing to worry about a few days later?Do you fear being left or cheated on, and can’t stop that fear from getting in the way of the happy relationship you could be experiencing right now?If so - this episode is for YOU!I’m talking all about embracing uncertainty and offering practical tips for stopping rumination and gently opening up to the unknown.Mentioned in the episode:Dealing with uncertainty / Handling 'What if...' thoughts resourceEmail me about 1:1 coaching in the New Year - [email protected]

‘Why can’t they be more sensitive?!’‘Why can’t they be more affectionate’‘Why can’t they just do what they said they’d do!’‘They shouldn’t be so opinionated’ Ever find yourself ruminating about how all the other people in your life should change their behaviours to make your life easier? If so - this episode is for YOU.I’m going to help you understand why your brain does this, why it isn’t useful and how to bring yourself back to what you CAN control.Mentioned in the episode:Ready to make 2026 you finally master your relationship mind drama? Email [email protected] my free mind management roadmap to learn how to start taking back control of your anxious mind - HERE.

How often have you heard the phrase ‘If they wanted to they would’? Well in today’s episode, I’m talking about that well used advice and how it isn’t always useful. AND offering you a new perspective to try on in its place.AND I’m also going to be talking about why we OBSESS over certain people or situations - and what to do when you notice your brain is in fixation mode.Mentioned in the episode:Request details of 1:1 coaching: [email protected]

Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you!We're going to cover:Emotional permanence, and how some of us struggle to believe our partners still care about us when they’re not physically with usCompromise and deciding how a long distance relationship will lookManaging your anxious brain and processing your emotionsThe fears that often come up in long distance relationshipsFeeling pressure for the time you spend together to be perfectAND how you can feel connected to your partner, even when they’re not around or in contactReady? LISTEN NOW.Mentioned in the episode:Processing emotions meditationQuestioning your thoughts cheat sheet

Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt?Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with?And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think?In today's episode, I'm talking about:Where confidence comes from (and where it doesn't come from)Confidence-eroding thoughts vs confidence-producing thoughtsAnd the two key components to creating unshakable confidence Mentioned in this episode:Self Esteem Building Kit

In today’s episode I’m answering questions from listeners on their real life relationship struggles. Covering topics including:What to do when your husband has female friends you’re uncomfortable withFear of being rejected because of what you post onlineDealing with potential rejection after asking for more commitmentAND dealing with a mother-in-law that does not respect your boundaries.Ready? Let’s dive in!

You’re all listening to this podcast because you’re perhaps aware your anxious mind is causing a lot, or some, problems and you want to take back control of your side of the equation.But what happens if you’re doing all of that work - and your partner is continuously responding in ways that seem unsupportive, unkind, or pretty mean?Maybe being dismissive of your feelings, getting defensive - even after you’ve worked really hard to approach them calmly, or perhaps even being quite harsh or unkind about what you’re struggling with.In this episode I’m talking about:Dealing with dismissive and emotionally immature partnersSetting boundaries Validating yourself when they won’tAnd deciding if they’re the best partner for youMentioned in the episode:Self Esteem Building KitEmail me about 1:1 coaching: [email protected] me with a question for next week's episode: [email protected]

Do you ‘get’ this work - but still find yourself reacting badly when you’re triggeredDo you know your thoughts aren’t likely true, but can’t help but panic and react when they appear?If so - you’re likely missing a key piece of the puzzle, which is self-regulation. And in this episode, I’m going to give you concrete tools and techniques for regulating in the moment of a trigger.Mentioned in the episode:Get in touch about my December 1:1 coaching packageJoin my email list

Do you ever get anxious about how often you and your partner are having sex? Do you question whether you’re having ‘enough’ sex? Keeping score of who initiates the most? Or focusing on their experience of sex, rather than your own?Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary disconnection and resentment around sex - so that’s what we’re talking about in today’s episode.Mentioned in the episode:Find out about 1:1 coaching - [email protected] my email list

Ever worry that if you start to do this work to clean up your own thinking you might end up accidentally gaslighting yourself or becoming okay with everything - even bad behaviour?If so - you’re not alone in that fear.In today’s episode I’m talking about:Why questioning our thoughts isn’t the same as gaslighting ourselvesAND how to tell when you WOULD be using this work against yourselfMentioned in the episode:Own Your Side - my 8 week group coaching programmeEmail me - [email protected]

Is this a want or a need?Why does my partner get so defensive when I tell them what I need in the relationship? And is this relationship just not right for me?In today’s episode - I’m talking all about wants, needs, and how taking responsibility for your emotions first can make communicating your preferences 10x more likely to end in connection.I’m also going to be talking about my brand new group coaching programme - Own Your Side ...Which is going to help you to drop the drama in your relationship and get clear, calm, and confident in just 8 weeks! Ready? Let’s dive in!Own Your Side - 8 week group coaching programmeEmail me directly: [email protected]

Today, I’m sharing a blast from the past in the form of a previous episode I released in 2024 - offering you 5 questions to ask yourself when you feel rejected. If you’ve already heard this one - the recap will be just what you need. And if not, you’re going to learn 5 questions to help you meet your mind with compassion and curiosity when you feel rejected, AND challenge some of the unhelpful assumptions your brain is offering you.Psst... Have you signed up for my FREE masterclass?Stop Projecting, Start Connecting - 1st OctoberNew 8 week group coaching programme - Own Your Side

Are you blaming your partner, friends or family members for how you feel?Saying they ‘make’ you feel bad, insecure, anxious or rejected?'Shoulding' them - believing they should behave differently. And tending to assume the worst?If so - it sounds like you need to start cleaning up your own side of the relationship equation and getting more intentional about how you choose to to think, feel and respond to the situations in your relationships. And I’m going to teach you how!Mentioned in the episode:FREE Stop Projecting, Start Connecting masterclassOwn Your Side - 8 week group coaching programme (launches 1st Oct)

Are you dating but finding the experience pretty miserable?Are you constantly afraid of rejection and does the idea of getting ghosted again make you want to delete all the apps and stop bothering altogether? If so - this episode is for you! I’m talking all about dating, rejection, and how to build rejection resilience...So that you can keep moving forward and create the kind of relationships you truly want.Mentioned in the episode:Processing emotions meditationContact Rebecca about 1:1 coaching - [email protected]

Do you ever find yourself wondering: is this just my anxiety or is this actually a real issue in my relationship?In today’s episode - I’m talking about why that might be the wrong question to ask AND how to start managing your own mind better so you can intentionally decide how you want to think, feel and show up to any situation you’re facing. Ready? Let’s dive in! 

You might be spending a lot of time wondering if you can trust your partner, the person your dating, your co-workers, or any other human in your life.But how much do you actually trust yourself?In today’s episode, I’m talking all about:What self trust IS and what self trust ISN’TWays to start building a relationship with yourself rooted in self-trust & self-acceptanceAnd how to believe that you can handle whatever life throws at youMentioned in the episode:Processing Emotions MeditationEnquire about 1:1 coaching - [email protected]

In today's episode, I chat with the amazing Jewel Hohman - expert in all things friendship, connection and social anxiety - to talk about what it really takes to create meaningful friendships.AND what often gets in the way of them.This episode is for you if...You ever feel anxiety about your friendshipsYour friendships have changed and don't feel as fulfillingYou want more friends but don't know how to make themYou have 'enough' friends but want to feel more connected to themCheck out Jewel Hohman: Instagram

Do you often search for dating tips - wanting to find the right way to text, show up on dates, the right amount of time to wait before having sex with them - all to try and ensure a certain outcome?If someone isn’t texting as much as you’d like - do you decide to pull back and be aloof? Maybe not initiate plans until they’ve initiated some first?Today we’re talking all about:Playing games vs genuine authenticityCommon dating advice like stepping into your black cat energyWhy you should stop playing games in your relationshipsAND what to do if you feel like someone is playing games with youMentioned in the episode:Find out all about 1:1 coaching & book a free 30 minute consult - email [email protected]

How much information should you expect your partner to be sharing with you?Should you know each others phone passwords? Have your locations on?What if they don’t tell you about bumping into an ex? Or they delete some messages?In today’s episode - I’m talking all about transparency vs privacy - and how to manage your mind in different situations where you and your partner may not think the same about how much to share.Mentioned in the episode:The MYRMD SocietyProcessing Emotions Meditation

Do you have a friend that everyone just seems to LOVE - and so you end up feeling a little overshadowed?Do you have parents that are overly critical and not so great at showing you unconditional love - and so you often feel like you’re disappointing them and fighting for their approval?If so - you likely heavily relate to the character of Blair Waldorf from Gossip Girl. And in today’s episode - I’m talking about the insecurities and challenges Blair faces, and how we would work on them in a coaching setting. And if you relate to her character in any small way - I’m going to be offering you ways to overcome your own insecurities - and get out of the shadows of the people around you.Mentioned in the episode:The MYRMD Society - Sign up

Today - I'm resharing one of my older, popular episodes - all about radical self acceptance.Do you find yourself being pretty hard on you?Do you have a negative voice in your head, that's constantly ready to criticize you and tell you you're doing it wrong?And that compares you to other people? Telling you you're always falling short?In today's episode, I'm talking about how self-acceptance will change your life - including:What self-acceptance really isWhy we struggle to love and accept ourselvesThe excuses we make to not accept ourselvesHow to make shifts towards unconditional self-acceptanceMentioned in this episode:Self Esteem Building KitThe MYRMD Society

Do you often obsess over your romantic relationship? OR are you currently single and find yourself obsessing over when you’re next going to BE in a romantic relationship? What if I told you this was no accident.And that you may have been brainwashed into fetishizing romantic love?In today’s episode, I’m talking all about the history of romantic relationships, the way society has shaped the way we think about the importance of them...And I’m sharing key signs that you may be putting the idea of romantic relationships on a pedestal in an unhealthy way… and what you can do about that.Ready? Let’s dive in!Mentioned in the episode:The MYRMD Society - all the details & link to joinThe Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet

Do you and your partner or the person you’re dating have different ways of showing love and care?And is it something that can cause a problem in your relationship?If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m talking all about:What love languages areWhy we all differHow to manage our minds around those differencesHow to communicate more effectively what we’d like from our partnersAND how to decide if someone just isn’t right for youMentioned in the episode:The MYRMD Society - £99 a month!

In today’s episode - I’m sharing a magic sentence that has helped me shift out of anxious spirals on so many occasions, and has been a huge help to many of my clients too.When we’re feeling anxious, we’re afraid of a certain outcome - we’re internally resisting it happening, we don’t believe we could handle it. But by using the sentence I’m going to share with you in this episode - I’m going to show you how to drop that resistance and embrace whatever the future holds. Ready? Let’s go!Mentioned in the episode:The MYRMD Society - my membership programme for anyone wanting to overcome insecurity and anxiety and finally feel confident and secure in their relationships