13. Household Harmony, Domestic Dynamics & the "Invisible work"

We invite you to JOIN THE WAITLIST for our  "Soul Presence membership space www.soulpresence.com.au Come Journey with us, as together we explore the possiblities that await us, and ride the wave of each other's momentum as we move towards a heart led life.EXPECTATIONSIt's a little bit funny now, but it's taken a while for me to be able to really communicate clearly, the expectations I have of my family when I go out, and also if these expectations are really necessary.Often I would arrive home after a fun evening out, and start to fix up the house.  I would go around the loungeroom and straighten cushions.  I would head into the kitchen and clean up plates, dishes, wipe benches and reset knowing that this would save me time the next day.Sometimes I would be doing this at a ridiculous hour like 10.30, 11pm at night depending on when I arrived home.Hubby got a bit done with the whole routine and I guess through my display of frustration and huffing and puffing, or maybe it was the the martyr in me, he decided to keep things as tidy as possible so I didn't have to go around doing that.However, how easy would it have been for me to just have a conversation with him, instead of spending all of that extra energy making a point.Who's problem was it??Mel and I go through some interesting themes in this episode, looking at the natural roles in the household that seem to get automatically allocated to a couple.  We chat about the fact that life doesn't just go on pause when we leave the house, so things will quite possibly get messy at home while we are away.  As Mel says, so beautifully, kids still eat and play while we are away.And we take a look at the invisible jobs that mums often do, hence the reason that most of the time when we go out, these jobs go unnoticed, and most of the time that's why we are left with them at the end of the day.We share some communication tips around expectations.  Yes, these conversations are sometimes awkward at the beginning but once we get clear on what we need while we are out, and our partner gets clear on some of the key important tasks that need to get done, we can all move on and have some fun!Because really, that's the key here!We are creating space in our week to have fun.Nat and Mel xxMore information on our Retreat space:https://www.soulpresenceretreats.com.au/Head over to our Grab Your Keys and Go community for some juicy conversations around the topics of our podcastshttps://www.facebook.com/groups/1921054834941568