134 | Why That Memory Still Hurts: Letting Go Without Forgetting the Lessons You've Learned

Find the full episode here: LivingOnPurposeInChrist.com/blogWhat if the moment you feel small or guarded isn’t a faith failure, but your nervous system asking for healing? In this episode, we open up a tender, practical path for Christians who love Jesus yet feel blocked when they want to pray, speak, or lead. Rather than stuffing emotions or shaming ourselves, we explore how God meets us where memory, body, and spirit intersect—so forgiveness becomes release, and witness flows from peace.Across the conversation, we unpack emotional charge and why certain tones, comments, or invitations trigger outsized reactions long after the event is over. We revisit the biblical depth of forgiveness through the lens of aphiēmi (ἀφίημι)—letting go, sending away, and loosening what has been bound. We connect this to how the brain stores pain and how memory reconsolidation can help the heart remember without being ruled by intensity. Then we turn to the surprising power of aroma through aromatherapy. Because smell reaches the brain’s emotional center directly, it can surface and soothe old imprints without forcing a retelling. From Joseph and Nicodemus preparing Jesus’ body with myrrh and aloes to incense and anointing throughout Scripture, we trace how God has long used scent to steady weary souls.We also walk through the Aroma Freedom Technique as a gentle, Holy Spirit-led way to access and release stored emotion while staying regulated and safe. No pushing, no reliving—just a prayerful space where truth replaces fear and the body learns peace. As that charge fades, daily witness changes: your words feel lighter, courage grows quieter but stronger, and people sense a grounded presence that invites trust.To help you keep that freedom, we share simple rhythms for your devotions—presence over perfection, breath prayers, brief journaling with simple journal prompts, and compassionate boundaries that fit real life and a busy schedule. You’ll leave with biblical encouragement that helps you make it doable today, because small steps add up.If you’re longing to speak about Jesus with renewed confidence and clarity, or if your quiet time feels heavy despite your best efforts, you’re not alone. Join us to experience a kinder way forward and consider a private coaching hour at PaulaBehrens.com/coaching where we’ll guide the process with care, prayer, and a gentle approach that may include essential oils as supportive tools. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs biblical encouragement, and leave a review to help others find this path to healing.Send us Fan Mail><> ><> ><> ><> ><> ><> ><>YOUR NEXT STEPS:*Accept Jesus into your heart*"Partner with God In Your Business" (Free Event): Register HERE"Which Woman Of the Bible Are You?" Take the Quiz7 Prompt Cards (FREE): PaulaBehrens.com/prompt-cardsVisit our website: LivingOnPurposeInChrist.comSnag Freebies in our FB Group: DevotionDrops.comJoin the Private Bible Study Circle: EssentialFaithJourney.comFree 15-Minute Discovery Call > PaulaBehrens.com#discoverycallEmail: [email protected]