138. The Love Paradox: Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Partner - And How to Break the Cycle

Send Gemma a messageThis episode is a special one - I’m sharing the audio from a recent live masterclass where I walk you through the deeper psychological patterns that drive attraction, and why insight alone often isn’t enough to change them.If you’ve ever found yourself drawn to emotionally unavailable, avoidant, or self-absorbed partners - even when you know better - this episode will help you understand why.I explore what’s happening beneath the surface, and what it actually takes to begin shifting these patterns from the inside out. What you’ll learn Why high chemistry is not always a sign of compatibility  The “love paradox” - wanting one thing, but being pulled toward something very different  How your early schemas (core emotional patterns) shape who you’re drawn to  What schema chemistry is and why attraction can feel so compelling - even when it’s not right for you  The role of people-pleasing, self-sacrifice, and loss of voice in dating  Why “just date more” or “choose better” doesn’t solve the problem  The key stages involved in breaking long-standing relationship patterns  How to begin rewriting your “love template” so you can move toward emotionally available partners This episode is for you if… You keep finding yourself in similar relationship dynamics  You’ve dated emotionally unavailable or avoidant men  You struggle to trust yourself in dating  You tend to over-give, over-accommodate, or lose yourself in relationships  You’re ready to understand why this keeps happening - and start doing things differently These patterns are not random - they are shaped by deeper, often unconscious processes. And once you understand them, you can begin to shift them.Want to go deeper?If this episode resonates, I also share more about my Love Wisely group coaching program inside this training.It’s a 12-week experience designed to help you: Understand your patterns clearly  Work with your schemas  Build self-trust  And begin relating in a way that supports the kind of relationship you actually want Support the show🎓FREE LIVE MASTERCLASS - Why smart women override red flags in dating😊Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List  ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY Connect with Me 📩[email protected]  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here