139: Your Kid Isn’t the Problem: What Holiday Break Reveals About You (Not Them)

I had such a powerful conversation with Becky Alfred about something that's been hitting me hard lately - the moments when my kids trigger me the most are actually showing me the parts of myself that need healing. We dove into why our children aren't problems to fix, but mirrors reflecting back what we weren't allowed to be or express as kids. This episode completely reframed how I think about conflict, repair, and what it really means to break generational patterns. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ Why your kids' biggest triggers reveal your own childhood wounds ➡️ The difference between anxious and secure attachment in handling conflict ➡️ How to repair after losing your cool (and why it's the secret sauce) ➡️ Rethinking sibling fights as practice opportunities instead of problems ➡️ The CAPS framework for showing up as the parent your kids need If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: Here’s the replay link for UNSPOKEN!  https://tinyurl.com/BeckyAsteUNSPOKEN I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— ➡️ Connect with Becky Alfred 🔗 Leveraging her two decades of experience as a pediatrician, mom of three, and mental health and wellness advocate, Becky partners with parents to identify their family’s unique values, unpack generational patterns and implement science-backed strategies to build a lasting connection with their children. https://www.beckyalfred.com/ Schedule Your 30-min call here: https://calendly.com/beckyalfred/discovery-call