1417 || resisting DARVO + how to change minds

Megan Phelp’s 4 rules for productively engaging with people who you disagree with:Don’t assume bad intent but instead, assume good or neutral intent.Ask questions: This signals that the person is being heard, and they also feel safer to ask questions in return.Stay calm: "right" doesn’t justify "rude". Pause, step away, use a digital buffer for social media exchanges, and then come back. Make the argument: don’t assume the value of your position should be obvious; it isn’t to others. If we want them to change, make the case for it.DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim + Offender - Aggressive avoidance of accountabilitySEP: Somebody Else's Problem - Passive avoidance of accountabilityTips for talking to people you disagree with: https://ideas.ted.com/4-tips-for-talking-to-people-you-disagree-with/DARVO wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVOSEP wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somebody_else%27s_problemDonate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.netGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.