145: I Thought I Had to Be Perfect to Keep Him

This week I'm joined by one of my Root to Rise clients, and hearing her share how she went from constant hypervigilance and fear of abandonment to genuine peace in her relationship reminded me why I do this work. Sonia's breakthrough wasn't about fixing her partner or finding the perfect relationship strategy, it was about learning to slow down, trust herself, and stop abandoning herself in the name of keeping someone close. Her story is proof that the answers we're frantically searching for outside ourselves have been inside all along. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ How anxiety in relationships shows up even when there's no "obvious" trauma or reason ➡️ The nervous system roots of anxious attachment and hypervigilance in intimacy ➡️ Learning to slow down, be still, and trust yourself instead of over-explaining or seeking permission ➡️ Why suppressing emotions with tools backfires—and how to actually listen to your body's messages ➡️ Breaking free from the healing trap of constantly chasing the next program or coach If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky