#146 - Tegan Pasitney - The Truth About Falling Behind in Life

Tegan Pasitney is a hardworking shift worker and passionate mental health advocate. In a world where adulting can feel overwhelming and identity-shifting, Tegan brings insight into the ways we adapt, find meaning, and preserve our well-being. From discovering unexpected joys in new hobbies to navigating the emotional weight of growing older, and maintaining good mental health through life’s inevitable changes, her story is both relatable and inspiring.For Tegan, picking up new hobbies like golf and rediscovering reading came from a place of boredom—but blossomed into something far more meaningful. Golf, once an afterthought, became a shared experience with her partner, filled with patience, joy, and cute outfits. Reading, always part of her life, took on a deeper personal dimension once she chose books that truly spoke to her rather than following trends. While there’s often pressure as an adult to choose “productive” hobbies, Tegan sees value in pursuing activities that simply feel good and help carve out personal time—especially while balancing a demanding shift schedule. It’s not about the optics; it’s about the joy and grounding these hobbies bring.Adulthood doesn’t hit all at once—it unfolds in quiet milestones. For Tegan, despite graduating multiple times and watching friends get married, the realization that she was truly growing older came from envisioning her own future: a partner, a home, a stable life. With that vision came new standards for relationships and friendships—favoring emotional maturity, deep conversations, and mutual respect. Growing up, she believes, isn’t about hitting arbitrary markers; it’s about evolving through experience and being willing to take chances, even when things feel uncertain.Tegan has always leaned on people as a support system, but through experience, she’s learned to pair connection with independence. Navigating transitions like moving back home or starting a new job required her to build small, consistent habits—hydration, sleep, meals, and meaningful connection. Journaling has become a powerful outlet for her, giving her space to let go of thoughts without judgment. Above all, she’s learned that taking time for yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential. And sometimes, the most grounding thing in the world is a hug from someone who loves you.Tegan’s story is a beautiful reminder that growth doesn’t come in one big moment—it comes in the everyday choices we make to show up for ourselves. Whether it’s finding joy in a new hobby, redefining friendships, or quietly journaling your way through chaos, her journey shows us that adulthood isn’t about having it all figured out—it’s about being willing to grow, one step at a time.KEEP IT LONG TERM!