148. You Do Everything For Them - When Did You Last Just Be With Them?

You did a hundred things for the people you love today. So why does it feel like you barely saw them?In this episode, Dr. Phyllis names the quiet trade so many big-hearted women have made without meaning to: becoming the most useful person in the family instead of the most present one. She shares her own years of doing everything for the people she loved and hardly ever being with them — and the moment in Scripture (Mary and Martha) that finally showed her the difference. Her doing was never the problem. Letting it crowd out the being-with was.This week’s reflection:Sometimes the greatest gift we can give the people we love is not what we do for them, but our full presence with them.In this episode:(0:52) When was the last time you were truly with your loved ones?(3:10) Dr. Phyllis shares the personal cost of always doing(6:45) Why loved ones may receive your help but miss your presence(9:50) Doing for people is not the same as being with them(12:59) How productivity can become tied to love and self-worth(14:42) What Mary and Martha teach us about presence(17:52) The 10-minute “nothing in your hands” challenge(20:43) Freeing your hands by releasing what is not yours to carryYour next step is already waiting: a guide called What’s Yours to Carry — and What Isn’t, made to walk you through your own plate and help you start sorting this is mine from this was never mine. Go get it at thebelowthecircle.com.Nothing has been wasted. It’s not too late to land — whole, aligned, free.———Get your guide → thebelowthecircle.comBelow the Circle with Dr. Phyllis · Stop circling. Start landing. 🕊️Scripture: Luke 10:38–42