15. Are You Too Hard On Yourself? : I Hear YOU!

Are you juggling one hundred different plates, and trying to do everything perfectly – outstanding – sensational – top notch? I HEAR YOU! Yesterday, those plates dropped around me, and finally I realised that I am being way too hard on myself; my abilities; my success and everything else that comes with it!  In any walk of life, whether that’s being a parent, an entrepreneur, starting a new career, trying to lose weight – whatever our story, we always seem to enjoy spinning as many plates as we can. Lo and behold the ‘me time’ plate is always the one that has the least effort put into it. We strive for perfection, we strive for success and we want everything around us to be working perfectly without actually looking after the person who is running the show. Therefore, we can sometimes inadvertently end up being our own worst enemy. When we don’t give ourselves a break, mentally or physically, that’s when burnout hits us, and usually like a tonne of bricks.  If we’ve not looked after ourselves well enough, or we haven’t let ourselves off the hook, BAM! It all comes crashing down – all one hundred spinning plates. So how hard are you on yourself? Do you give yourself a ‘break’? (I’m not talking about a holiday, I’m talking about not being so mean to yourself all the time). How can we be kinder to ourselves and not run from these high standards we put in place for ourselves? Here are my 10 tips: Your mistakes are part of your learning – take the positive learnings out of the mistakes and move on – QUICKLY! Don’t compare yourself to others because you aren’t them – the grass isn’t always greener – you are YOU, so accept yourself for who you are, faults and all. There is no right way to do anything – don’t limit your thinking to a right or wrong way – there is no right way to do the wrong thing, and no wrong way to do something right! Stand up for what you believe, even if it’s unpopular – make sure everyone understands your big plans, crazy ideas and dreams, don’t let anyone take that away from you. Learn from people who criticise you – don’t let criticism get you down; let it be an inspiration! Accept your weaknesses as your “features”. – we can’t be good at EVERYTHING, nobody is! Don’t underestimate your talent until you apply it 100 times – are you applying your natural talents to everything you do? Put your problems in perspective. Intelligence is relative, self-esteem is not – stay positive, take care of yourself, forget about being perfect, and always keep improving yourself. Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed – having people you can trust and rely on will make you happier and feel better about yourself. So, what are you going to do this week to remove the pressure and be kinder to yourself?   Get in Touch... Website - www.rebeccahaydon.com Instagram - @_rebeccahaydon_ Email - [email protected]