151. Where People Get Attachment Styles Wrong

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support. In this podcast episode, we delve into a common misconception about attachment styles that many people get wrong. When individuals discover their attachment style, they often believe they must first heal it to achieve secure attachment before entering a relationship. For dismissive-avoidant individuals, this stems from a fear of being a burden to others. For anxious preoccupied people this stems from a fear of rejection. However, the truth is that attachment doesn't operate in a linear "heal before love" manner. Secure attachment isn't about fixing oneself first; it's about learning how to express and ask for one's needs effectively. This means that being able to articulate your insecurities and communicate your needs is a hallmark of secure attachment. Join us as we explore the concept of attachment and discuss how understanding and voicing your needs can lead to healthier and more fulfilling relationships. I’d love to help you learn how to understand and communicate your attachment needs. Book a free discovery call to see what outdated patterns are holding you back from healthy relationships. It is possible to change your attachment style and feel like you’re growing with someone in a deeply committed relationship. Link to book a free discovery call: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call Follow Lit AF on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.com Visit the Lit AF Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/ Discovery call link: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call