153: The Big NO NO when it comes to the Enneagram

Do you remember the feeling you had when you first understood your Enneagram type?⁣⁣When you knew you’d landed properly, it may have felt like a whole new world opened up to you.⁣⁣Listen now⁣⁣⁣When I was introduced to the Enneagram 10 years ago, I was mistyped as a 3.⁣⁣But there was something that happened when I was typed properly. It was like the sky opened up and I was given the secret code to understanding why I was the way I was.⁣⁣I started to look at myself through the eyes of honor and compassion instead of shame, guilt, and unworthiness.⁣⁣For me—and for so many people I work with—it feels like you’re being seen and known for the very first time.⁣⁣This is why, a lot of times when people do a typing session with me, they are super excited to understand their Enneagram type.⁣⁣But that excitement can quickly turn into unhelpful and even damaging behavior if you’re not careful. This happens when we start to type other people and put labels on them.⁣⁣That’s why it’s important to understand we need to use the Enneagram for our OWN personal transformations and journeys. It’s not our responsibility to use it on others.⁣⁣⁣Quotes:⁣0:38⁣There’s something that happens when you are typed properly and it’s like the skies open up.⁣⁣3:01 ⁣Understanding that the Enneagram is to be used for our OWN personal transformational journey.⁣⁣4:38⁣People are made up of more than their personality, a lot more, and there are so many different factors and complexities to the enneagram that make them more than their core type.⁣⁣7:29⁣Just because somebody is like an Enneagram 1, doesn’t mean that they’re necessarily a perfectionist or organization guru. ⁣⁣8:09⁣You can use the Enneagram very very very effectively without knowing somebody’s Enneagram type. ⁣⁣10:32 ⁣The Enneagram is an incredible tool to help you better understand those around you. ⁣⁣11:12⁣I am very opinionated naturally but I have learned how to ask for permission first. ⁣⁣12:13 ⁣Just because I know this in and out doesn’t mean I don’t have my own work to continuously do. ⁣⁣13:24 ⁣Whenever you are triggered or something bothers you I want you to think of this— if I spot it, I got it. ⁣⁣14:22 ⁣This is a beautiful, beautiful tool and sometimes when it’s used out of integrity you can turn people off from the very tool that can actually help them change their life. ⁣⁣15:01 ⁣People who love the Enneagram, people who are new to it, it is the greatest tool I’ve ever used. ⁣