# 159 - The Psychology of Playing Victim, Avoiding Direct Conversation, & Going Behind Someone’s Back

Ask The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast a Question. Text the TLT Pod today.In this episode of The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast, Dr. Allison Sucamele explores the psychology behind a frustrating and often painful dynamic: when someone plays the victim, talks behind your back, and avoids addressing issues directly. Through a deeper lens, this behavior is unpacked as a mix of avoidance, image management, and triangulation - patterns that distort communication and shift focus away from true resolution.If you’ve ever felt misrepresented, excluded from your own narrative, or caught in indirect conflict, this episode helps you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface. More importantly, it offers a grounded perspective on how to respond - without over-explaining, internalizing, or losing your sense of self.This conversation is a reminder that not all conflict is meant to be resolved - some reveals capacity. And recognizing that can be the moment you stop chasing clarity and start anchoring in your own truth. Disclaimer:This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy, diagnosis, or medical advice.Mental Health Resources:If this topic brings up difficult emotions, you don’t have to navigate it alone. Consider reaching out to a licensed therapist or counselor for support. If you are in the U.S., you can call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7. You can also chat via 988lifeline.org. If you are outside the U.S., local crisis lines and mental health services are available in most countries—please seek support in your area.