16. Are You An Overachiever? : The Traits Of...

1. UNPLUG! I was laughing at myself this week because I have become literally ADDICTED to checking my phone in the morning; it’s the VERY first thing I do. I have to make sure I have seen all Instagram stories and have scrolled down to the last post I saw before I start my day – I am crazy I know! So, if the first thing you do in the morning and the last thing you do at night is look at your phone, it’s time to unplug. It’s virtually impossible to have a healthy balance when you’re obsessing over comparisons or what needs to be done.  Inevitably your phone reminds you of all of these! 2. There is no time like the present, LITERALLY! Let’s bring ourselves back to the PRESENT. “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, which is why we call it the present.” Set aside weekly time that is NON-NEGTIONABLE “you” time! Make sure you are not working, not planning, not thinking – you are just “being”. If that’s a glass of wine, catch up on Bake Off or going for a walk – whatever that looks like for you – practice just “being”, be really PRESENT! 3. Ask yourself “Why?” Sure, we want to conquer the world, but if you’re waking up at 5 am to exercise, do your job, create a side-hustle, go out for happy hour, and trying to be a loving friend/partner/parent, one has to ask a big fat “Why?” Seriously. You may tell yourself, “That’s just how it is,” or “I need to keep up with everyone else”. But, if it feels like you achieve and keep achieving in order to feel validated and worthy, then you could be setting yourself up for emotional disappointment and frustration. What could you do to give that to yourself instead? After all, true happiness comes from the inside-out. Ask yourself “Why am I doing this right now? What will it give me?” 4. Ramp up the self-love. What can you do that’s just for you? Is there a hobby you’ve stopped participating in? When’s the last time you read a book purely for enjoyment? Do things each day that contribute to your self-care. Make it a non-negotiable, not a once-in-a-while activity. The act of valuing yourself as much as you value others will shift that need-to-please mentality. So ultimately, it’s not about achieving more, it’s about achieving more of what’s right for you! Bring it back to you, back to the present and look after yourself.   Get in Touch... Website - www.rebeccahaydon.com Instagram - @_rebeccahaydon_ Email - [email protected]