16. Full of Defensive Behaviour

In this episode, Tiff shares the story of a skunk encounter—an unexpected moment that opened up a whole new lens on how we understand our own defensive behaviours. It sparked a reflection on how we extend empathy so easily to animals acting out of instinct… but often meet our own protective responses with guilt or shame.Together, we unpack the many ways our nervous system adapts to keep us safe—whether through people pleasing, perfectionism, harsh self-criticism, avoidance, control, or emotional shutdown. These patterns may look different from one person to the next, but they all stem from a deep, human need to stay safe and connected.We explore why we judge our own defense mechanisms so harshly, how these parts are rooted in survival and positive intent, and what changes when we bring in more curiosity and compassion.What if our defenses aren’t asking to be fixed… but to be witnessed?Join us for a conversation about normalizing our protective parts, softening our shame, and finding gentler ways to meet ourselves in the moment—right where we are.🎧 Subscribe to Soulfull so you never miss an episode: linktr.ee/soulfullthepodcastConnect with us: Instagram: @soulfullthepodcast Facebook: Soulfull the Podcast Email: [email protected]