161: People Pleasing Was Never a Personality Flaw

A couple weeks ago, a two word text from another mom sent me into a full spiral, and I spent days looping, over apologizing, and chasing reassurance that never came. I'm getting vulnerable about what happened at my daughter's birthday party, because the same pattern that had me texting that mom is the same one that has you scanning your husband's face and asking "are we okay?" for the hundredth time. People pleasing was never a personality flaw, it's a nervous system pattern your body learned to survive, and in this episode I'm showing you exactly how to start unwinding it. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ The birthday party trigger that exposed my people pleaser pattern ➡️ What the fawn response is and why your body learned it ➡️ How people pleasing shows up in your marriage ➡️ Why "we're fine" never feels like enough ➡️ A permission slip to stop reaching and practice presence If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky