161 You're Not Holding Yourself Back...and why saying that is actually making it worse

A podcast host asked Danya a question the other day and she stopped him halfway through it. Not because the question was rude. Because the question had already decided the answer.He was asking what she'd say to the woman on the fence about the big pivot, the one who's "just really holding herself back."That phrase is the whole episode.Because here's what nobody says at this level: you can add every strategy, every hire, every quarter of discipline you've got, and if the sentence running underneath all of it is "I'm holding myself back," your felt experience of your own life doesn't move an inch. Not because you're not trying. Because you can't have any other experience on the station you're broadcasting on.This one goes into what's actually happening when you catch yourself asking what's wrong with me, why can't I figure this out, I feel behind, no matter how many zeros you add to the account.The three best months of your life, followed by the expense you swear you didn't see coming.The static that shows up the second you start changing the dial, and the thing you do with that static that sends you straight back to where you were.Why the printer was never the problem, and what happens the day you stop hitting it.Danya speaks in metaphors on purpose and she counted about ten of them in here. One of them is going to be the one that lands.Then the part most people skip entirely: the difference between understanding this, knowing it, and actually being unfuckwithable when the launch is quiet, when the negotiation falls through, when someone writes something about you online. Because you already understand a lot of this. You could probably teach half of it.That was never the level.Unfuckwithable Wealth is my 6 month signature space for high performing, self aware, successful, smart women taking this all the way to the input, and I'm opening doors again soon. I close the rooms by feel, not by a number. If you've been circling it, that's your answer. Comment or DM me TIGER and I'll send you the way in.If this episode hit home, send it to your biz bestie who might need to hear it too.And if you enjoy these conversations, leave a review and let us know. It genuinely helps the podcast grow and helps us know what resonates so we can create more episodes like this.Mentioned in the episode:Book a Laser Session → HEREApply for 1:1 Mentorship → HEREConnect with Danya further:Instagram → HERETik Tok → HEREAnd if there’s something you’d love to hear explored on the podcast, send me a message.Quick note: this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and isn’t a substitute for therapy, medical care, financial advice, or other professional support. Please use your own discernment and seek qualified professionals when needed.© Danya 2026Would you like to deliver your own private podcast feed to your audience? Sign up for a free trial today at Hello Audio.