164 The Right Decision Feels Like Shit...and that's how you know it's yours

How do I figure out what I actually want? I feel like I'm just going through the motions, doing what I'm supposed to do, and I'm not sure why I'm doing any of it.Or the more honest version. Am I living by conscious choice, or am I just following the default settings?And for you it's not the settings you inherited. You've done a lot of work on those. It's the ones you've quietly attributed to this next chapter. This identity, this level of success, this level of money, this expertise.I know. Roll your eyes. Only you truly know what's in alignment for you. And I'm very particular about saying in this moment, because you are meant to fucking change, which means what worked for you this last decade might not be what you want moving forward. Can you be okay with that?In this one: the dream job I fought tooth and nail for and planned to stay in for thirty years, until I woke up one day and went, oh shit, this isn't it anymore. The most unnerving mind fuck of your life. The thousand professionally edited videos and the multiple five figures I walked away from to follow a whisper. The question a mentor asked me that had me broken down crying inside a minute, because I knew the answer and it scared the shit out of me. And why I couldn't go out to dinner by myself.Everyone around you is going to protect you and your fears. Out of love. It still doesn't serve your higher mission.Most people can feel the jump. They see the gap, they can even see the other side. And they don't jump, because they're too comfortable with what they know. A good relationship, not a great one. Roommates on autopilot. A great career, not the dream one.Do you give yourself permission to question?And here's the part nobody tells you. When you make the right decision for you, it's not rainbows and butterflies. Fuck no. You're grieving what you knew. It often feels like shit. That doesn't mean don't do it.Death by a thousand paper cuts. It's very rarely the big stuff.What are you doing it all for? The only answer is because you want to.Resources mentioned:THE LASER. You and I, live, for about an hour. A lot of the time it takes a lot less than that. You bring one specific thing and we shift it. We clear it. I see the things you can't see, the things you're not saying, the things you're not even asking yourself, because how the fuck do you Google what you don't know how to ask? Here.1-1 mentorship: 2 spaces openingOr, if you're someone who values long-term mentorship, I'm opening up two spaces for my year-long one-to-one container. Apply below. Gold Coast, I'm flying back down for the Inspirational Soul Summit on October 16 and 17, a two day immersive with Peter Williams and Nick Demos. Questions about it, let me know. And if you're not in the area and you still want to come, fucking come on down.If this episode hit home, send it to your biz bestie who might need to hear it too.And if you enjoy these conversations, leave a review and let us know. It genuinely helps the podcast grow and helps us know what resonates so we can create more episodes like this.Mentioned in the episode:Book a Laser Session → HEREApply for 1:1 Mentorship → HEREConnect with Danya further:Instagram → HERETik Tok → HEREAnd if there’s something you’d love to hear explored on the podcast, send me a message.Quick note: this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and isn’t a substitute for therapy, medical care, financial advice, or other professional support. Please use your own discernment and seek qualified professionals when needed.© Danya 2026Would you like to deliver your own private podcast feed to your audience? Sign up for a free trial today at Hello Audio.