169: You've Done the Work. So Why Does Part of You Still Feel Stuck?

This episode started as a conversation Julie Brumley recorded for her own podcast, and the minute I listened back, I knew it had to live here too. The three of us — me, Julie, and Bridget Covill — went deep on a question I hear constantly from women who have done years of inner work: why does part of me still feel like it's holding on? We talked about shame, where it actually lives in the body, what breathwork does that nothing else can, and what becomes possible when healing stops happening in isolation. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ Why high-functioning, self-aware women still carry a hidden undercurrent of shame ➡️ How shame shows up in the body — and in intimacy — before you even have words for it ➡️ What breathwork reveals that journaling and Zoom calls simply cannot ➡️ The difference between surface-level friendship and real sacred sisterhood ➡️ What relational healing looks like in person — and why some layers can't be softened alone If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— 🌿 If your body leaned in during this episode, that's your sign. Join Becky, Julie, and Bridget at the Wild + Rooted Retreat 2026 for three days of breathwork, somatic healing, and sacred sisterhood on the Eastern Shore of Delaware. ➡️ Grab your spot before it's gone ———————————————————————— Connect with Julie Brumley Julie is a trauma-informed adoptee coach and podcast host helping women heal the core wounds of abandonment, belonging, and identity through body-based work and the power of being truly witnessed. ➡️ Instagram ———————————————————————— Connect with Bridget Covill Bridget is a reset breathwork facilitator who helps women release what they've been carrying so their aliveness can come back online. ➡️ Instagram