171: The Closer He Got, the More I Pushed Him Away in Bed

Violet Lange met her husband in a dream three weeks before she met him in real life, and that is only the beginning of what she shares with me in this one. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and incest, she walks us through exactly how she went from dissociating during sex and hugging the ex who broke into her apartment to feeling fully at home in her body and her marriage. If you flinch when your husband reaches for you, or you are afraid healing will open a can of worms you cannot close, this conversation is for you. ✨ Topics Covered ➡️ Why the closer a partner got to her emotionally, the more she pushed him away sexually ➡️ What actually happens in a somatic experiencing session (and why you never have to relive the story) ➡️ Yoni eggs, cervical wands, and tantra: the tools that finally connected the circuit board ➡️ When your husband takes your no as rejection, and how to hold your truth without mothering him ➡️ Crockpots vs. microwaves: discovering your unique turn-on blueprint If your body still hasn't caught up to all the inner work you've done, Root to Rise 2.0 is your next step. One week, 15 women, $57 for the first spots. I'd love to have you in this container 👇 ➡️ https://www.idobreakthrough.com/rtrhousewarming ———————————————————————— Love Note From Becky Aste: How free is your voice? ⁠⁠⁠http://www.idobreakthrough.com/voice⁠⁠⁠ I’d love to hear from you! Dm me "PODCAST" on Instagram and I’ll send you a free training that pairs perfectly with this episode 💬 ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/becky_aste⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to learn more about working with Becky? Book a call with her right here: [⁠https://calendly.com/idobreakthrough/free-connection-call⁠] Would rather stalk before we talk? No judgement here ;) Here’s my website!➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.idobreakthrough.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ XO Huge Hugs - Becky ———————————————————————— Connect with Violet Lange Violet Lange is a professionally trained coach, yoga teacher, Reiki master, and Harvard grad who left the corporate world to help smart, spiritual humans attract and create lasting love, supporting couples in creating soulful, connected sex. As a survivor of complex trauma and childhood sexual abuse, she is passionate about alchemizing our deepest wounds into joy, pleasure, and lasting connection. Love Harmonics with Violet Instagram: @VioletLoveLange Email: [email protected] Jaiya's free Erotic Blueprint quiz