#173 Betrayed Men: Why Their Trauma Looks Different — and What Actually Helps with Dr. Laney Knowlton

When we talk about betrayal trauma, the picture most people carry is of a betrayed woman. But men experience betrayal too — and their pain often goes unseen, misread as anger, or dismissed entirely. In this episode, Dr. Laney Knowlton joins us to look honestly at what betrayal trauma looks like for men.We talk about the support gap, look at the cultural messages men carry, and how those make healing challenging.Most importantly, we talk about what actually helps and what genuine healing looks like whether a man chooses to stay or leave. Dr. Laney Knowlton is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor and clinical sexologist with a PhD in Clinical Sexology. She maintains a private practice, Knowlton Counseling with physical offices in TX and UT and is licensed across more than a dozen states. She specializes in sexual abuse, betrayal, and problematic sexual behavior. Dr. Knowlton is the author of Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behaviors (Routledge, 2025) and the developer of the Connected Recovery® framework. She currently serves as President of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH). KnowltonCounseling.com & ConnectedRecoveryTraining.comLaney@KnowltonCounseling.comlinktr.ee/connectedrecoveryFree Handouts Most Recent BookSASH podcast Other Resources in this Episode: Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual AddictionHelping Couples Heal From Infidelity and Find Love AgainThe Intimacy PyramidThe Betrayal ShrinkEnjoyed This Episode?Here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review💬 Join the Community📲 Share This EpisodeConnect With Me + Continue Your HealingYou don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Download my free guide: The Six Ways Betrayal Hides in Your BodyJoin the Reclaiming You Waitlist: Healing after betrayal starts with reclaiming yourself. Reclaiming You is a high touch, trauma-informed group experience designed to help you restore nervous system safety, rebuild self-trust, and come home to who you are.Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety.Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect. Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveI’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), learn more about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th.The Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive⁠⁠⁠⁠ takes place October 6-9 in Spanish Fork, Utah.Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalListen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes.👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.com⁠