Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

After betrayal, one of the most common questions couples ask is: “How do we know if we’re actually healing?” Are we moving forward… or just surviving? Is this real progress… or just a calm before another storm?Healing after infidelity or betrayal rarely arrives with certainty. It doesn’t usually feel dramatic, resolved, or even peaceful. Instead, healing often shows up in subtle shifts — more capacity, more consistency, and more emotional safety over time.In this episode, we explore the difference between false calm and real safety, and the quiet signs that healing is happening — even when things still feel uncertain.This conversation is trauma-informed and designed for both partners — whether you were betrayed or you are working to rebuild trust — and helps couples orient toward progress without rushing outcomes.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join the Help Her Heal weekly support group for men working to rebuild trust and create safety.Sign up for my Rooted and Rising Healing mailing list to stay informed of all upcoming resources and events where we can connect. Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.If you're ready for a deeper connection with your daughter(s), ⁠complete this interest list⁠ for more information about my upcoming retreat - Becoming Together: A Mother Daughter Retreat - hosted by myself and my two daughters in Sedona, Arizona on September 8 - 12th.Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. The Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 30 - August 3, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences.👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠Connect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes.👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠

After betrayal, boundaries become one of the most talked about — and most misunderstood — parts of healing. Many couples find themselves stuck in painful cycles where boundaries meant to create safety instead lead to more conflict, defensiveness, and distance.In this episode, we explore the difference between boundaries that heal and boundaries that punish, and why that distinction matters for couples trying to rebuild trust after betrayal.When boundaries become punitive, relationships often shift into an unhealthy parent/child dynamic — where one partner becomes the enforcer and the other becomes the one trying not to get in trouble. This dynamic can increase resentment, defensiveness, and emotional distance, making healing more difficult.Instead, we’ll talk about how healthy boundaries create safety, predictability, and nervous system regulation, helping couples move from power struggles into partnership.This episode is designed for both partners — whether you were betrayed or you’re working to rebuild trust — and offers a compassionate, trauma-informed approach to boundaries that support real healing.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. ⁠Register for my 90-minute Zoom workshop⁠ called Boundaries That Build Safety: Reclaiming Your Power After Betrayal. Happening Thursday, April 30th at 6 PM Pacific Time.⁠Email Hali⁠⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. The ⁠⁠Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive⁠⁠ takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉⁠A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠👉⁠Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal⁠Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 ⁠Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!⁠Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust. 👉 ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠Connect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠ 👉 Facebook: ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠ 👉 Website:⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠

Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions in betrayal trauma — but still shapes every interaction, every conversation, and every attempt at repair.In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Matt Wenger, LPC, CSAT, CCSP to unpack what anger actually is, what it’s protecting, and why nervous system regulation is the key to responding rather than reacting.Because anger isn’t the problem. It’s the nervous system underneath it that determines what happens next.Matt is the Executive Clinical Director of Begin Again Institute, a treatment center that offers Trauma Based Intensives for Men seeking recovery from porn and sex addiction. He has served more than 1,500 families since 2019. Matt’s expertise is in men’s addiction, betrayal trauma, childhood trauma, couple’s recovery and the spiritual aspects of recovery. Matt holds a Master’s degree in Couples and Family Counseling and is credentialed as Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS). If you would like to connect with Matt: beginagaininstitute.com [email protected] https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-wenger-19b883294/Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.⁠⁠⁠Register for my 90-minute Zoom workshop⁠⁠⁠ called Boundaries That Build Safety: Reclaiming Your Power After Betrayal. Happening Thursday, April 30th at 6 PM Pacific Time.⁠Email Hali⁠⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. The⁠ ⁠⁠Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive⁠⁠⁠ takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.👉⁠⁠A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠👉⁠⁠Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal⁠⁠Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system.👉⁠ ⁠Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!⁠Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust.👉⁠ ⁠Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal⁠⁠Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences.👉⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Weekly⁠⁠Connect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes.👉 Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠👉 Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠👉 Website:⁠⁠ ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com⁠

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Nima Rahmany to unpack the push-pull dynamic that so many couples experience after betrayal or relational trauma.He explains how our nervous system shifts between states like fight-or-flight, shutdown, and connection—and how real healing requires learning to regulate those states rather than just understanding the dynamics intellectually.Dr. Nima Rahmany is a nervous system and trauma specialist helping individuals heal attachment wounds and become trigger-proof in love and leadership. Formerly a chiropractor, he now guides clients through somatic and shadow integration to break free from toxic patterns and self-abandonment. Dr. Nima offers several programs designed to support this process, including his ⁠Attachment Style Quiz and the Trigger Proof Experience, a monthly program focused on emotional regulation and relationship transformation.If this episode resonated with you, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, or sharing it with someone who might need this conversation.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. ⁠Register for my 90-minute Zoom workshop⁠ called Boundaries That Build Safety: Reclaiming Your Power After Betrayal. Happening Thursday, April 30th at 6 PM Pacific Time.Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Later this year, the Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place August 25 - 28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

After betrayal, many couples expect the hardest part to be the initial crisis. But what often comes next is something quieter—and just as real: healing fatigue.In this episode, we talk about what happens when the adrenaline wears off, the urgency fades, and both partners begin to feel emotionally and relationally exhausted. This episode offers validation, relational clarity, and practical ways for couples to stay engaged in healing without burning out or quietly disconnecting.You don’t heal betrayal trauma by trying harder—you heal it by creating enough safety to rest.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Help Her Heal Intensive — a powerful 4-day men’s intensive — is designed for men who are ready to move beyond surface apologies and truly learn how to support their partner’s healing after betrayal. Held in a safe, confidential environment in Spanish Fork, Utah, this experiential program blends trauma-informed workshops, real-life practice, and expert coaching to help participants cultivate empathy, emotional capacity, and integrity in their relationships. This intensive offers experiential learning, feedback, and concrete strategies to grow personally and relationally. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. The ⁠Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive⁠ takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram👉 Facebook👉 Website

After betrayal, one of the most painful questions couples face is: Do we stay… or do we leave?In this episode, we explore why that question feels so urgent after betrayal—and why clarity rarely comes through forcing a decision. This episode is for couples navigating the messy middle—where nothing is fully resolved yet, but healing is still possible.Staying is not a lifetime contract. Leaving is not always immediate clarity. Discernment is a process, not a deadline.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. Help Her Heal Intensive — a powerful, immersive 4-day men’s intensive — is designed for men who are ready to move beyond and truly learn how to support their partner’s healing after betrayal. Held in a confidential environment in Spanish Fork, Utah, this experiential program blends trauma-informed workshops, real-life practice, and expert coaching to help participants cultivate empathy, emotional capacity, and integrity in their relationships. This intensive offers experiential learning, feedback, and concrete strategies to grow personally and relationally. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. The ⁠Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive⁠ takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

Today we’re talking about something that can feel counterintuitive when a relationship is in crisis: slowing down and focusing on individual healing first. So many couples rush to fix the relationship, but sometimes the path forward starts with healing me before healing us.I’m honored to be joined by Chance and Crystal, a couple who share their honest and powerful journey of how individual healing became the foundation for rebuilding trust, connection, and safety in their marriage. Together, we explore why couples work too early didn’t help, what each partner had to face on their own, how trauma responses shaped their relationship, and how nervous system regulation transformed the way they communicate.Whether you’re a betrayed partner, a betraying partner, or a clinician supporting couples, this episode offers hope, wisdom, and a roadmap for what healing can look like when each person does their own work first.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. Email Hali⁠ to join the⁠⁠⁠ Interest list for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth. The ⁠Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat⁠ in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Later this year, the Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

Why doesn’t an apology fix betrayal trauma? If you’ve experienced infidelity, pornography addiction, or relational betrayal, you may have heard the words “I’m sorry” over and over… and yet still feel unsafe, unsettled, or unable to move forward.In this episode, we explore a powerful truth:Apologies matter—but they don’t heal betrayal trauma on their own.Betrayal trauma isn’t just an emotional wound. It impacts the nervous system, the body, and your ability to trust what’s real. Healing requires more than words—it requires consistency, accountability, emotional presence, and time.Whether you’re the betrayed partner wondering why you still hurt… or the partner who caused harm feeling confused about what else is needed… this episode will bring clarity, relief, and a grounded path forward.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveSign up here⁠ for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.Help Her Heal Intensive — a powerful, immersive 4-day men’s intensive — is designed for men who are ready to move beyond surface apologies and truly learn how to support their partner’s healing after betrayal. Held in a safe, confidential environment in Spanish Fork, Utah, this experiential program blends trauma-informed workshops, real-life practice, and expert coaching to help participants cultivate empathy, emotional capacity, and integrity in their relationships, equipping them with tools to respond with presence and repair rather than defensiveness. The Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. The ⁠Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive⁠ takes place August 25-28 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram👉 Facebook👉 Website

Accountability is one of the most talked-about — and most misunderstood — parts of betrayal recovery.For many couples healing after infidelity or sexual betrayal, the word accountability can feel loaded with fear: punishment, humiliation, endless judgment, or never being able to move forward.But true accountability isn’t about being shamed.It’s about becoming trustworthy again.In this episode of Choosing to Stay, Hali Roderick breaks down what accountability actually means after betrayal trauma, what it doesn’t mean, and why accountability is one of the most essential ingredients in rebuilding safety, trust, and long-term repair.This conversation is especially powerful for partners who want to do better but don’t know how to stay present with the impact of what they’ve done — and for betrayed partners who are tired of carrying the emotional labor of recovery alone.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Sign up here⁠ for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Eddie Capparucci, a licensed professional counselor and creator of the Inner Child Model™, to explore how emotional regulation, childhood wounds, and nervous system healing play a powerful role in both addiction recovery and betrayal trauma.Dr. Capparucci has spent decades helping individuals and couples understand how unresolved emotional pain from childhood shapes adult coping patterns. Together, we talk about why slowing down, learning to feel, and building emotional regulation skills are foundational to real healing.We also discuss how the Inner Child Model™ has been adapted to support betrayed partners, offering a framework for working with the vulnerable parts that emerge after trust has been broken.Learn More from Dr. Eddie CapparucciDr. Capparucci is the author of six books, including:Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual AddictionWhy Men Struggle to Love: Overcoming Relational Blind SpotsGoing Deeper for Betrayed Partners🎁 Free Chapter OfferListeners can receive a free chapter from one of these books by emailing: [email protected] (Be sure to include which book you’d like a chapter from.)🌐 Website: https://www.innerchild-sexaddiction.comConnect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveThe Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Sign up here⁠ for an upcoming course for parents called Intentional Parenting After Betrayal, hosted by Hali and her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth.Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 20-25, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

Betrayal trauma is often talked about as a couple’s crisis, but betrayal is never contained to the marriage alone.In this episode, Hali Roderick and her daughter Morgan Ellsworth explore the often-overlooked impact of parental betrayal on children and the entire family system.As professionals in the betrayal trauma field, and as a mother and daughter who have firsthand experience, they invite listeners into an essential conversation on generational healing, witnessing, and family recovery. They discuss how children often feel the impact of betrayal in the family, without the truth to give language to their experience. Without support, they often carry confusion, self-blame, and unprocessed grief into adulthood.Together, they discuss how children often sit in an unaware and disempowered place and why compassionate witnessing, emotional validation, and developmentally appropriate disclosure are essential for restoring agency and safety.Healing is messy. It is courageous. And it is possible across generations. View the Typology of Witness Grid mentioned in this episode HERE.⁠Sign up here⁠⁠ for our upcoming course for parents: Intentional Parenting After Betrayal.Read ⁠Witnessing Wonder and Hope⁠  (⁠Full Study⁠)Connect with Morgan on Instagram and listen to her podcast, Healing Betrayed Families.You can email her directly at [email protected] With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. The Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes.👉 ⁠Instagram⁠👉 ⁠Facebook⁠👉 ⁠Website

Grief is one of the most misunderstood parts of betrayal recovery — especially for couples who are choosing to stay.In this episode, Hali Roderick explores how grief shows up differently for betrayed partners and betraying partners, why couples often feel out of sync in the healing process, and how the APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM) helps couples navigate grief in the post-traumatic growth phase.You’ll learn why “parallel grief” is normal, how grief becomes a relational stressor, and what healthy shared grieving can actually look like after infidelity and betrayal trauma.This episode offers practical conversation prompts, trauma-sensitive insight, and hope for couples learning how to stay human together in the aftermath of betrayal.Listen to my other episodes on grief that I mention in the episode:#146 Grief After Betrayal: What Men Lose—and Why It Matters for Healing#22 The Grief Nobody Talks About After Betrayal#23 Part 1: The Early Grief Phases You Didn't Expect After Betrayal#24 Part 2: From Grief to GrowthConnect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com

Grief after betrayal is rarely talked about—especially when it comes to men.In this episode, we explore grief after betrayal for men, including men in recovery, men who have caused harm, and men who have betrayed themselves. While grief is often associated with sadness or loss through death, betrayal creates layers of invisible loss that many men carry without language—or permission—to acknowledge.I’m joined by Joseph McKinley who is a Pastor and Recovery Coach at Greenway Recovery as well as a coaching colleague of mine at Choose Recovery Services, where he supports individuals and families navigating sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma. His work focuses on helping men face truth with compassion, integrity, and responsibility—without bypassing the grief that healing requires.You don’t have to navigate grief, recovery, or betrayal alone. Healing doesn’t start with having the right answers—it starts with naming what’s been lost.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other Podcast If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com

Today’s conversation sits at the intersection of trauma, recovery, and compassion for the body.Many listeners of Choosing to Stay are navigating betrayal trauma, addiction recovery—either their own or their partner’s—and ongoing nervous system overwhelm. In those seasons, nutrition can either feel like a powerful support… or like one more place we’re falling short.In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. David Wiss, a pioneering mental health nutritionist and Institute for Functional Medicine Certified Practitioner who bridges nutritional science with psychiatric and addiction care. Dr. Wiss is the founder of Nutrition in Recovery and the Wise Mind Nutrition app, and his work focuses on root-cause healing at the intersection of trauma, substance use, and food-related struggles.What I appreciate most about Dr. Wiss’s approach is his emphasis on compassion over control, and his understanding of behaviors—not as failures—but as adaptations shaped by stress, trauma, and survival.Together, we explore how nutrition can gently support healing from trauma and addiction without becoming another source of shame, pressure, or perfectionism.Connect with Dr. David Wiss: drdavidwiss.comInstagram: @drdavidwissFree Download: 5 Ways You Can Use Nutrition to Improve Your Mental HealthDr. David Wiss is a leading voice in integrative mental health and nutrition. Founder of Nutrition in Recovery and the Wise Mind Nutrition app, he blends over 13 years of clinical experience with groundbreaking research on food addiction, eating disorders, and psychiatric care. With over 30 peer-reviewed publications and features in The New York Times, National Geographic, and more, Dr. Wiss is transforming how we approach healing—by addressing the root, not just the symptom.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveThe Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening in July , offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com

After betrayal, many couples believe they’re struggling with communication—but what’s really happening is much deeper. Betrayal doesn’t just break trust; it rewires the nervous system, changing how safety is experienced inside the relationship. In this episode, we explore why conversations feel loaded after betrayal, why small behaviors can feel overwhelming, and how nervous system responses—like defensiveness, shutdown, or hypervigilance—keep couples stuck in painful cycles. You’ll learn why this isn’t about being “too sensitive” or “never enough,” but about how the body responds when relational safety has been compromised.Whether you are a betrayed partner, the one rebuilding trust, or a couple navigating healing together, this episode offers compassionate insight, practical nervous system tools, and a powerful reframe that helps interrupt the trauma loop—without blame or shame.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 20–25, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com

What does it really mean to stay grounded in yourself when you’re the one doing the emotional work in the relationship?In this episode, I’m joined by Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC—trauma-informed licensed professional counselor, coach, speaker, founder of Betrayal Healing and LiveFree Counseling, host of the annual Betrayal Healing Conference, and author of Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing from Intimate Betrayal.Together, we explore one of the most painful and confusing realities many betrayed partners face: being committed to healing while your partner is slow, avoidant, or inconsistent in their growth.This conversation is not about abusive dynamics. It’s for the woman who is trying to stay anchored in herself while navigating a relationship that still feels uneven—and who is wondering how to do that without resentment, self-abandonment, or losing herself in the process.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingJoin me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called ⁠Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal,⁠ created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal⁠ Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com

“One of the most painful places couples get stuck after betrayal is right here: One partner is thinking, ‘We’re okay. Why can’t we move on?’ And the other is thinking, ‘I want to—but my body keeps panicking.’ And both end up wondering what’s wrong with them.In this episode, I want to explain why this disconnect happens—not because someone is resisting healing, but because the nervous system doesn’t work on logic or timelines. If you’ve ever felt frustrated, confused, or ashamed of your body’s response after betrayal, this conversation is for you.”Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingJoin me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called ⁠Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal,⁠ created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal⁠ Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising Weekly Connect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com

In this special bonus episode, Hali Roderick is joined by her friends and trusted colleagues Amie Woolsey and Alana Gordon for a shared conversation about the heart, vision, and deeper purpose behind the Rise, Renew, Restore Women’s Retreat in Costa Rica.Together, we explore why this retreat is about so much more than getting away — it’s about creating true nervous-system relief, embodied healing, and a felt sense of safety that many women have been longing for after betrayal, burnout, and chronic emotional stress.We also unpack the meaning behind the name Rise, Renew, Restore, and how each part reflects the journey women move through when they step into a space designed not just for insight, but for deep, body-level change.Stay Connected with Me:Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising WeeklyJoin the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You CourseDownload my free:⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠[email protected]⁠

Many couples stay together after infidelity—but staying together isn’t the same as healing.In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the quiet, often unspoken space many couples live in after betrayal: life looks calmer on the outside, but underneath there’s still tension, disconnection, or a sense of holding your breath.This conversation gently examines how avoidance can masquerade as peace, the difference between rugsweeping and real repair, and the signs that healing is actually happening—for both partners.This episode isn’t about pushing you toward a decision or creating pressure to “do more.” It’s about offering clarity without urgency, and honesty without self-abandonment.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingJoin me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called ⁠Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal,⁠ created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal⁠ Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com

Can a relationship really heal after infidelity—or does staying just mean learning how to live with the pain?In this relaunch episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal, we’re slowing things down and getting honest about what healing actually requires. Whether you’re the betrayed partner wondering if you’ll ever feel safe again, or the partner who broke trust and wants to repair but doesn’t know how, this episode is an invitation to step out of fear-based decisions and into clarity.Healing after infidelity isn’t about going back to how things were. That relationship no longer exists. What’s possible—if both partners are willing—is building something new with more honesty, awareness, and intention than before.This episode sets the foundation for the year ahead: grounded, trauma-informed conversations about trust repair, emotional regulation, accountability, and discernment—without rushing forgiveness, minimizing pain, or offering false hope.Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Connect with me at an Intensive or Retreat:If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.comIf this episode was helpful, I’d be grateful if you’d rate, review, and share the show. Your support helps other individuals and couples find trauma-informed resources when they need them most.

This episode is one of the early conversations that shaped the heart of this podcast, and we’re bringing it back because its message is just as important today as it was when it first aired. If you’re in the aftermath of betrayal or rebuilding a relationship after broken trust, this episode lays the groundwork for understanding what true repair requires.In this re-released conversation, we explore what a renewed commitment looks like from the unfaithful partner — not in words or promises, but in consistent action. Healing after betrayal begins when the betraying partner is willing to “do whatever it takes” to rebuild safety, honor the betrayed partner’s pain, and repair the relational bonds shattered by the breach.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Partner CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!Stay Connected with Hali:Download my free:⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠[email protected]⁠

This special re-release revisits one of the most important conversations from our early episodes — an episode so foundational that we felt it needed to be heard again. If you or your spouse are in the early stages of betrayal trauma, discovery, or relational crisis, this conversation will give you the grounding, clarity, and practical steps you need to begin healing.In this re-released episode, we walk through what we call Trauma Triage — the immediate phase after betrayal when emotions are raw, the nervous system is overwhelmed, trust is shattered, and both partners are often flooded with fear, shame, confusion, and grief. This is the stage where calm, grounding support is crucial, but it’s also the time when couples feel least equipped to offer it.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Partner CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!Stay Connected with Hali:Download my free:⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠[email protected]⁠

This special episode of Choosing to Stay marks a heartfelt transition and an important moment for our community. Hali and Stephanie sit down for one final conversation as co-hosts to reflect on what this podcast has become, how it has supported so many navigating betrayal trauma and relational healing, and what the future now holds. In this episode, Stephanie gently announces that she is stepping away from hosting as she moves into a new season of life and work. This change flows from clarity, alignment, and care. The friendship is strong, the mission remains, and there is no rupture — only a shift. Stephanie expresses continued belief in the podcast’s purpose and offers her blessing as Hali continues forward.Together, they revisit the early days of the podcast — how it began without a detailed roadmap, how meaningful and vulnerable conversations naturally emerged, and how listeners’ stories have shaped the heart of the show. Hali expresses deep gratitude for the wisdom, grounding, and compassion Stephanie has brought to every episode. Stephanie shares her favorite moments, lessons learned, and the profound impact of hearing how women and couples have grown along their healing journeys.Hali then shares what’s ahead: the podcast is continuing. The mission stays the same. New guests, expanded conversations, and a refreshed energy will unfold in the new year. This episode is a celebration of what has been built, an honoring of Stephanie’s contribution, and an invitation into a new season of growth.If you are a woman experiencing betrayal trauma, you can find Hali on her new podcast Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!Stay Connected with Hali:Download my free:⁠⁠ Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠[email protected]⁠

Stopping destructive behaviors is only the beginning. In recovery after betrayal, many partners achieve behavioral sobriety but struggle with emotional sobriety—the ability to regulate, integrate, and share emotions in real time. In this episode, we’ll break down the psychology of emotional sobriety, how compartmentalization keeps couples stuck, and what moving toward integration looks like for both the betrayed partner and the one seeking recovery.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

In this episode, we share a core truth of couples' recovery: healing starts with honoring yourself — and that personal work naturally becomes a gift to your partner, your children, and future generations. Healing isn’t about fixing each other; it’s about becoming grounded, regulated, and emotionally responsible.We talk about how individual healing lowers reactivity, strengthens emotional tolerance, and creates stability at home. Children benefit when parents model accountability, honesty, repair, and regulation — even without knowing the details.We also explore how relationships shift when each partner focuses on their own growth instead of waiting for the other to change. Listeners will hear simple ways to practice daily healing and begin creating a legacy of emotional safety, honesty, and courage.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode, Hali welcomes her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, BCC, MFT-I to talk about how to help children feel secure, loved, and grounded during the holidays when the family system is healing from betrayal. Kids pick up on tension, silence, and emotional shifts more than words - but they don’t need perfection, they need presence. This conversation explores how to offer age-appropriate honesty, create simple rituals of connection, and bring stability into a season that might feel uncertain or different this year.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this honest and compassionate episode, Hali and Stephanie speak directly to those who have betrayed trust and are navigating the deep discomfort of the holiday season.When you’re the one who caused harm, it’s natural to want to “fix” things — to bring joy back, to create happy moments, to prove your love and remorse. But often, that well-intentioned positivity can feel like bypass to your partner — like you’re skipping past their pain to ease your own guilt.This conversation helps you understand what empathy looks like in action — how to stay grounded, offer comfort without pressure, and walk through the season with humility, patience, and presence.You’ll learn how to avoid common pitfalls like overcompensating, defensiveness, or forced cheer, and instead practice the kind of empathy that fosters real safety and trust over time.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this heartfelt episode, When the Season Doesn’t Feel Merry: Honoring Grief, Creating Boundaries, and Finding Grace, Hali and Stephanie talk about how to navigate the holidays when your heart is still healing from betrayal. The season that’s “supposed to be” full of joy and family connection can feel heavy and disorienting after trust has been broken. Together they explore how to name and honor the layers of grief that surface this time of year, release the pressure to perform or pretend, and give yourself permission to do things differently. You’ll hear honest reflections about how grief can show up for both partners — from sadness and guilt to numbness or overwhelm — and how authenticity can become the first step toward peace.They also share practical ways to protect your healing through boundaries, compassion, and grace. From creating a “holiday boundary check-in” to pausing for moments of shared breath and acknowledgment, this conversation offers tools to help couples stay grounded and connected through the discomfort. Whether you choose quiet simplicity or small new traditions, this episode is an invitation to honor your reality and care for your nervous systemThank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C Read Stephanie’s Bio

In this special episode, Hali shares from the heart about her next chapter — the creation of Rooted & Rising After Betrayal, a new podcast and healing community for women walking the path of recovery after infidelity and betrayal.While Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal will continue to support couples doing the brave work of relational healing, Rooted & Rising offers a sacred space just for women to reconnect with their truth, rebuild self-trust, and rise into their next chapter with clarity, courage, and community.If you’ve ever thought, “I wish there was a space just for me — where I could feel seen, understood, and supported,” this episode is your invitation.The vision and heart behind Rooted & Rising After BetrayalWhy individual healing is important for relational repairThe meaning behind being Rooted (in truth) and Rising (into empowerment)How community and connection accelerate healingWays to stay connected through new resources and groupsIn This Episode🔗 Resources Mentioned🎙️ Rooted & Rising After Betrayal Podcast A brand-new podcast by Hali Roderick for women healing after betrayal — featuring short, heartfelt episodes, somatic tools, and empowering conversations. 👉 Follow Along HERE📘 Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal GuideA free resource to help you begin rebuilding safety, clarity, and self-trust after the devastation of betrayal. 👉 Download your copy HERE🧘‍♀️ Mini Guide to Mindful Healing. Quick, simple mindfulness and grounding practices to help regulate your body and calm your nervous system during moments of overwhelm. 👉 Get started HERE Help Her Heal Men’s Group A safe space for men ready to rebuild trust, empathy, and emotional connection after betrayal. 👉 Register HERE.

Healing after betrayal is some of the hardest emotional work a person can face — and it is exhausting. Recovery requires constant emotional energy, rebuilding trust, courage, and change over time. That level of effort wears on everyone involved.In this episode, we acknowledge how draining the process can feel for both the betrayed partner and the partner in recovery, and how that exhaustion can affect the relationship. You’ll learn why fatigue is a normal part of healing, how to recognize when you’re shutting down, and what small practices can help each partner stay engaged without burning out.This conversation offers validation, understanding, and practical support for anyone navigating the long road back from relational trauma.You’re not weak. You’re not failing. You’re healing — and healing takes energy.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Lying often begins as self-protection—but in the aftermath of betrayal, it becomes one of the biggest barriers to rebuilding connection. In this solo episode, Hali explores why lying becomes a habit, how it deepens disconnection, and what it takes to courageously choose honesty as part of the healing journey. Whether you’re the partner in recovery or the betrayed partner navigating trust issues, this conversation is about more than just telling the truth—it’s about reclaiming integrity, safety, and authentic connection. “Honesty isn’t just about facts. It’s about aligning your inner and outer world—and that’s where real healing begins.”In This Episode, You’ll Learn:Why lying becomes a default pattern in betrayalThe hidden fears that fuel dishonesty (rejection, shame, loss of control)How dishonesty creates a cycle of disconnection and mistrustPractical steps to build honesty like a muscle—even in low-stakes momentsHow to repair trust through accountability and consistent truth-tellingWhy support systems matter in sustaining honesty and recoveryLying often starts as a survival skill—but it can’t coexist with real intimacy.Honesty is a practice, not a one-time choice.Rebuilding trust requires truth, accountability, and self-regulation.Both partners need safe spaces to process pain and grow.Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit — November 6–9, 2025 | Mesa, AZIf you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns—even after trying therapy, groups, or self-help—you’re not alone. Healing after betrayal, trauma, or chronic stress isn’t just a “mind thing.” It lives in the brain, body, and nervous system.That’s why we created the Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit, a 4-day immersive experience designed to help men reset and reclaim their strength from the inside out.If you’re ready to reset, reconnect, and rise, this may be the missing piece you’ve been looking for.📅 Dates: November 6–9, 2025📍 Location: Mesa, Arizona✉️ To learn more or schedule a consultation:Email Hali at: [email protected] Dr. Jeff Roderick at: [email protected]👉 Learn more and register hereThank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery Coach TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

After betrayal, the future can feel like it’s been stolen. For the betrayed partner, dreams may feel shattered or unsafe to hold. For the one seeking recovery, hope for the future may be tangled with guilt, fear, or the pressure to “make things right.”In this episode, we’ll talk about what it means to truly process grief, why timing matters, and how both partners can begin to cautiously, safely, and authentically dream again.You’ll discover:Why trauma makes future-thinking feel dangerous.How the betrayed partner and the one seeking recovery experience hopes differently.Signs you may be ready to imagine new possibilities.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

When couples stay together after betrayal, there’s a difference between acceptance and resignation. Acceptance leads to hope and healing; resignation leads to disconnection and despair. In this episodeWhat acceptance vs. resignation really looks likeHow it shows up for both the betrayed and betraying partnerKey questions to help you discern where you arePractical steps to move from resignation into true acceptanceWe’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C Read Stephanie’s Bio

Betrayal cuts deep, leaving both partners facing painful choices about the future of their relationship. For some, staying is the beginning of an authentic rebuilding process; for others, it becomes a form of self-betrayal. In this episode, we unpack the why and the how of staying after betrayal.We approach this conversation from both perspectives: the betrayed partner and the one who has betrayed. Together, we’ll explore what makes staying a healthy path toward healing—and when it becomes unhealthy, unsafe, or unwise.We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Trust after betrayal doesn’t return with one big moment. It’s not only rebuilt through formal disclosures, powerful apologies, or recovery milestones—it’s the hundreds of small choices made day after day.In this episode, we talk about the power of micro-trust: those tiny interactions that slowly teach a partner’s heart and nervous system, “Maybe I can breathe again. Maybe I can risk hope.”You’ll learn:What micro-trust is and why it matters in healing after betrayal.Everyday examples of micro-trust builders that make a real difference.Common hurdles couples face when practicing micro-trust.Simple, steady ways to keep showing up, even when it feels overwhelming.Rebuilding trust is not about rushing or fixing it all at once. It’s about steady, consistent deposits that eventually create a foundation strong enough to hold safety, hope, and repair.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

In this episode of the Choosing to Stay Podcast, I’m opening up about something personal: my dad’s journey with Lewy Body Dementia and how it sparked my own concerns about brain health. As I walked through my own healing from emotional trauma, I began to realize something powerful—trauma isn’t just about thoughts or mindset. It lives in the brain and the body, shaping the way we show up in life and relationships.Most of the men I work with are carrying the weight of early adverse childhood experiences, and those wounds often fuel the destructive patterns that cause so much pain. If you’ve been working hard in therapy, recovery programs, or support groups but still feel stuck, it’s not because you’re failing. Trauma and addiction don’t just live in your thoughts—they live in your nervous system, your cells, and the physical patterns of stress in your body. Healing requires a whole-person approach.That’s why we created the Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit, happening November 6–9 in Mesa, Arizona. This 4-day immersive experience goes beyond talk therapy and gives men direct access to healing at the root level—brain, body, and spirit. Together with my husband, Dr. Jeff Roderick, a functional health chiropractor, and my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, an LMFT intern and brainspotting practitioner, we’ll be guiding participants through science-backed brain therapies, somatic healing, and hands-on restoration. You’ll walk away with practical skills, renewed confidence, and a roadmap for continued growth.If you’re ready to reset and reclaim your strength, this summit may be the missing piece. Join us for a transformational experience of healing, clarity, and brotherhood. Learn more HERE. To schedule a consultation to see if this summit is a good fit for you, please reach out to me at: [email protected] or Dr. Jeff Roderick at : [email protected]. 

Chandler Rogers is the CEO and founder of Relay, an app designed to help people overcome pornography and sexual addiction through community and shame-free accountability. Inspired by his own recovery journey, Chandler created Relay to provide structure, daily tools, and connection for thousands navigating healing. He lives in Orem, Utah with his wife, their 18-month-old son, and another little one on the way.🌐 Learn more: www.joinrelay.app 💡 Listener Offer: Use code CHOOSE20 for 20% off your first subscription.In this episode of The Choosing to Stay Podcast, we sit down with Chandler Rogers, founder of the Relay App. Chandler shares his personal recovery story, the power of community in healing, and what he’s learned from guiding thousands through recovery. Together, we explore why connection is the opposite of addiction, the role of self-care, and the key differences between those who grow and those who stay stuck.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Do you ever find yourself craving closeness one moment and pulling away the next? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into disorganized attachment — a pattern of connection rooted in the paradox of both desiring and fearing intimacy.You’ll learn:What disorganized attachment is and how it developsThe emotional, behavioral, and physiological signs to look forWhy betrayal trauma can activate this attachment style in adult relationshipsThe nervous system loop that drives the push–pull dynamicPractical tools to build secure self-attachment first — and then healthier, safer relational attachmentWe’ll explore simple yet powerful ways to:Name and interrupt old patterns in the momentRegulate your body before respondingOffer yourself the safety and comfort you long for from othersCommunicate needs clearly instead of testingRepair after conflict and slowly rebuild trust in vulnerabilityWhether you’ve experienced betrayal trauma, childhood relational wounds, or simply want to understand your own patterns more deeply, this conversation will help you start moving from fear and confusion toward connection and security.Thank you for tuning in!Courage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UTAre you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you’ll gain clarity, release what’s holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at [email protected] for more information. We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

 Avoidant Attachment – The Pull to WithdrawIn this episode, we explore the core traits, beliefs, and relationship patterns of dismissive/avoidant attachment — a style often rooted in early experiences where emotional needs were minimized or dismissed. You’ll learn how these protective strategies form, the impact they can have on intimacy, and practical steps to move toward secure, balanced connection without losing your independence.Whether you recognize these patterns in yourself or in someone you love, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and tools for change.In this episode, we mention the How We Feel app that you might want to consider if you are working on emotional awareness. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The childhood experiences that often shape dismissive/avoidant attachmentHow core beliefs like “I can only count on myself” influence adult relationshipsCommon behavioral signs, from emotional suppression to conflict avoidanceThe hidden anxiety behind emotional distancePractical strategies to build emotional tolerance and safety in relationshipsHow to balance independence with authentic vulnerabilityTools to repair connection after withdrawingCourage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UTAre you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you’ll gain clarity, release what’s holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at [email protected] for more information. We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode unpack anxious attachment — how inconsistent caregiving can lead to fear of rejection, hypervigilance, and dependency in relationships. Discussing how betrayal may amplify these patterns, what it looks like in adult relationships, and practical steps for moving toward secure connection.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode of Choosing to Stay, certified relational and recovery coaches Halle Roddick and Stephanie Hamby continue their multi-part series on attachment styles, focusing on secure attachment — what it looks like, how it develops, and why it’s a vital goal after infidelity and betrayal.They explore:What attachment theory is and the four main styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized)How secure attachment shows up in healthy romantic relationshipsWhy betrayal ruptures both real and perceived secure attachmentsThe importance of building self-secure attachment before working on relational repairPractical ways to cultivate internal safety, self-worth, and groundednessThe role of individual healing work for both the betrayed partner and the one seeking recoveryHow rupture and repair cycles strengthen trust in secure relationshipsResources Mentioned:You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For – Richard Schwartz (Book Link)No Bad Parts – Richard Schwartz (Book Link)Altogether You – Jenna Riemersma (Book Link)Help.Her.Heal – Carol J. Sheets (Book Link)Internal Family Systems (IFS) Institute (Website)Connect with Us: Follow the podcast for candid discussions on healing, growth, and the journey of choosing to stay after betrayal.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Thank you for tuning in! Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal The patterns we learned in childhood often become the lens through which we respond to betrayal. In this episode, we explore how your family of origin shapes the way you love, trust, and handle conflict—and why recognizing these patterns is essential for healing. From attachment styles to emotional suppression, we unpack common dynamics that show up after betrayal and share how awareness can lead to transformation.We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

After betrayal, healing isn’t about rushing to “get over it”—it’s about honoring what happened and who you’re becoming.In this episode, we walk through the transformation from victim to survivor to thriver—not as a formula, but as a compassionate roadmap for reclaiming your peace, your power, and your partnership (if you choose to stay).You’ll learn:What each phase really looks and feels like—emotionally, relationally, and somaticallyHow to recognize if you're stuck in survival—and what might help you move forwardWhy thriving doesn't mean the betrayal disappears—but it stops defining youWhat relational thriving looks like when both partners commit to individual healingHow the betrayer can move from shame to accountability and integrityHow the betrayed can reclaim voice, body, and boundariesWhether you’re in the earliest days of devastation or years into the work of rebuilding, this episode invites you to pause, reflect, and consider: What stage am I in—and what does healing on my terms look like? Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Thank you for tuning in!Betrayal doesn’t just damage trust—it disrupts the very foundation of fairness and emotional safety in a relationship. In today’s episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, Hali and Stephanie unpack a critical truth that many couples overlook in the early stages of healing: true recovery begins when the betraying partner takes the lead.This episode explores why betrayal is not just a mistake but a relational injustice—and why expecting the betrayed partner to initiate healing only deepens that wound. We discuss how the power dynamic shifts after betrayal, what it means to take responsible leadership in the recovery process, and how consistent, vulnerable actions by the betraying partner can begin to restore a sense of safety and connection.Whether you’re the partner who’s been hurt or the one who caused the harm, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and a grounded path forward.We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

 In this episode of Choosing to Stay, Hali welcomes Stephen Thomas, a seasoned sexual recovery coach who brings years of experience and a deeply personal understanding of the recovery journey. Stephen specializes in helping men move beyond behavior-focused sobriety by adopting a partner-sensitive lens—one that centers empathy, honesty, and emotional connection.Together, they unpack why true recovery must include the betrayed partner’s experience, how relational healing is possible when humility and transparency lead, and what it really means to develop healthy sexuality. If you've felt stuck in cycles or confused about the next step in recovery, this episode will give you clarity and hope.👤 About Stephen Thomas: Stephen has coached men and couples professionally for over four years and previously led recovery work in ministry for several years. His approach combines trauma-awareness, deep empathy, and a commitment to helping men redefine sexuality in a way that strengthens—not severs—their most important relationships.📩 Connect with Stephen: Stephen Thomas, Sexual Recovery Coach 📧 [email protected]🎧 Listen now and share with someone who needs this conversation.We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Thank you for tuning in!​​Shame Resilience in Recovery with Joseph McKinley In this episode of Choosing to Stay, we sit down with coach Joseph McKinley to talk about the role of shame in recovery and relational repair. We explore the difference between shame and guilt, how shame shows up in relationships, and why vulnerability and ownership are key to healing. Joseph shares tools, insights from his coaching work, and personal reflections on building resilience through self-compassion and connection.About Joseph McKinley: Joseph McKinley is a recovery coach specializing in overcoming unwanted sexual compulsive behaviors, intimacy anorexia, and partner betrayal trauma. He is certified as a Sexual Recovery Coach (SRC), Intimacy Anorexia Coach (IAC), Partners Recovery Coach (PRC), and Partner Betrayal Trauma Coach (PBTC) through the American Association of Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT). He is also a Certified Mental Health Coach through the American Association of Christian Counselors. Joseph provides personalized coaching to help clients address the root causes of their struggles and heal from trauma, empowering both men and partners to reclaim their lives and relationships.Contact Joseph: 📧 [email protected] 🌐 www.greenwayrecovery.comWe’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

Thank you for tuning in!Safety Starts Within Reclaiming Internal Grounding After BetrayalWhen betrayal shatters your world, safety feels lost. In this episode, we explore how true safety begins within, not in someone else's behavior. Whether you’re the one healing or the one working to rebuild trust, internal grounding is keyWe’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

 In this episode, we explore how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system and what it truly means to feel safe again in a relationship. If you or your partner have been affected by betrayal—whether through infidelity, secrecy, or other trust ruptures—this conversation will help you understand why emotional reactions are not just “drama,” but deeply rooted in trauma physiology.We’ll talk about what happens in the body after betrayal, how to recognize the signs that safety is still missing, and how both partners can support healing and trust-building in real, practical ways. We also mention the upcoming Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive on Aug. 26-28, 2025. 🔍 What We Cover:When Safety Feels Out of Reach: Learn how betrayal trauma activates the nervous system, leading to anxiety, shutdown, or hyper-reactivity—not because your partner is “overreacting,” but because their body is trying to protect them.Signs the Nervous System Doesn’t Feel Safe: From flinching at a tone of voice to needing constant reassurance, we’ll walk through common signs of nervous system dysregulation and how to respond with empathy instead of defensiveness.Why This Happens—It’s Not Just Emotional, It’s Physiological: Discover how betrayal disrupts the brain’s ability to predict safety, and why true healing requires consistency, transparency, and time—not pressure to “just move on.”What the Betrayed Partner Can Do: Gentle strategies to help you tune into your body, identify what feels unsafe, and take empowered steps toward self-awareness and grounding—without self-blame.What the Partner in Recovery Can Do to Rebuild Trust: Learn how to become a safe, steady presence in your relationship by telling the truth, staying present, and witnessing pain without trying to fix it.💬 Final Words of Encouragement: To the one healing from betrayal: Your body isn’t broken—it’s wise. To the one seeking to rebuild trust: You are not powerless. Your steady presence matters. To both: Healing is possible. Safety is possible. It begins with compassion, honesty, and showing up—again and again.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this deeply insightful episode, we welcome our newest coaching colleague at Choose Recovery Services, Isy Williams, for a conversation that touches the heart of every betrayed partner’s healing journey: rediscovering the self after the deep shattering of betrayal.Together, we explore the often invisible yet powerful knowing that something is off—even before the truth is revealed—and the role that instinct and intuition play when the mind doesn’t have all the facts. Isy shares wisdom on navigating the complex shame many betrayed partners face: the shame of “missing the signs,” the shame of staying, and the internal questioning of what that staying says about them.We also dive into a powerful truth: that this path of healing is not just about the relationship—it’s about reclaiming your identity. This journey is an invitation to break out of old patterns, rediscover your voice, and reconnect with parts of yourself you may have lost or never fully known.Whether you’re the one who was betrayed or the one who did the betraying, this episode affirms that true recovery requires courageous self-exploration from both partners. And while the work is difficult, the rewards—deeper intimacy, clarity, and emotional resilience—are life-changing.What You’ll Hear in This Episode:How betrayed partners often “feel” the truth long before they know itThe role of intuition and gut instinct in betrayal traumaDeconstructing shame around staying and what it doesn’t say about youWhy self-discovery is essential and empowering for both partnersHow healing creates space for deeper connection and intimacyInsights and encouragement from Isy’s personal and professional experienceConnect with Isy Williams:Read more about her: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#IsyWilliamsEmail: [email protected] site: www.brighthopecoaching.comIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it, and consider leaving a review. Your voice helps others find this healing space.Thank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

💔 Episode Summary:This episode will help you understand what love bombing really is, how it shows up in relationships after betrayal, and why it can be a form of manipulation or emotional abuse.✅ What love bombing is and what it isn't ✅ How to distinguish between genuine connection and manipulative intensity ✅ The red flags that indicate love bombing is occurring ✅ How it plays out in the betrayal and recovery cycle ✅ Why it feels so good—and why it can be so dangerous ✅ How to set healthy boundaries to protect your heart and clarity ✅ What to do if you are the one using love bombing as a coping or control strategy ✅ How to move toward authentic connection, not performance-based intimacy🛑 If you've ever felt swept off your feet only to crash into confusion, guilt, or emotional chaos—this episode is for you.🎯 Key Insight: Love bombing may look like love, but it's often about control, fear, or image management. Real love builds over time. It respects boundaries. It honors truth.🛠️ Tools You'll Walk Away With:Language to name love bombing when it happensReflective prompts for identifying if you're using love bombing behaviorsSupportive practices for reconnecting with your core needs and self-worthThank you for tuning in!We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali’s BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s BioWe look forward to journeying with you!5.28Common examples:Constant compliments, grand gestures, lavish gifts, excessive apologies or promises.Overwhelming reassurances like: “I’ll do anything to make this right” or “You’re the only thing that matters.”The betrayer may use it to:Avoid consequences or hard conversations.Fast-track trust or reconciliation.Manage their own guilt or shame.Reassert control or secure their image.The betrayed partner may crave it because:It momentarily soothes trauma or anxiety.It mimics the "high" of emotional connection.It delays facing the pain or deeper work of healing.You feel confused: “This feels good, but something’s off.”You may feel pressured to respond with gratitude, forgiveness, or emotional closeness.The affection may disappear as soon as conflict, boundaries, or accountability show up.It bypasses consent and authentic healing.It creates a trauma bond—confusion, hope, and fear wrapped together.It can invalidate your real pain: “See? I’m being loving now. Isn’t that enough?”It's often a protector part acting from fear—not a sign of true intimacy or growth.Name it: “This feels overwhelming. I need more time and space to process.”Ask: “Is this about me—or are you trying to make you feel better?”Use grounding tools to reconnect with your nervous system.Set limits: “I’m not ready for gifts or physical affection yet. I need actions over time.”Get curious, not shameful: “What part of me is afraid or trying to control the outcome?”Ask yourself:“Am I trying to fix or rescue instead of take responsibility?”“Am I making this about my pain instead of the harm I caused?”Shift to authentic repair:Slow down.Take consistent, humble action.Learn to sit with discomfort instead of performing love.Love is steady, respectful, and attuned. It includes:Consent.Accountability.Honesty.Healthy connection honors the other person’s boundaries, feelings, and timing—not just your desire to reconnect.Love bombing is a trauma response—on both sides.It’s a signal, not a sentence. Use it as a doorway to deeper work.Healing happens when we choose truth over intensity, and intimacy