18.0 Relational F*ckery with James-Olivia Chu Hillman

Have you ever engaged in strategies to try and "win" another person over in your relationships at the expense of true intimacy? If so, you're engaging in what this episode's guest, James-Olivia Chu Hillman calls: Relational Fuckery. Listen in as James-Olivia and I speak about the ways we participate in losing strategies and relational fuckeries in our relationships with each other and ourselves. Some of my favorite highlights are: Asking yourself is there room for you in your relationship and is your relationship sustainable? What is right relationship, as defined by both James-Olivia and myself. The importance of regard in our relationships. How belonging cannot be conditional: We belong because we exist. And, that the root of all our relationship pain comes down to one thing: contempt. Resources James-Olivia and I talked about are: -White Supremacy Culture article by Tema Okun -Desiree Adaway -Dr. Jenn McCabe -James-Olivia's website and Regard program Follow James-Olivia on Instagram Follow Shirani on Instagram Let's have a convo! Take a screenshot and share this episode on Instagram letting me know what you got out of it, and be sure to tag me @shiranimpathak so I can respond! Links: Join the private newsletter community to receive bonus episodes of the podcast, community only invitations for quarterly Coffee Dates, and offers on anything I create delivered straight to your inbox: www.shiranimpathak.com/connect   Find Me on Social Media: Our hashtags are #fierceauthenticity and #showupbeseengetlove If you're loving the episode, take a screenshot, share it on social, and tag me in your post! Instagram: @shiranimpathak Facebook: @ShiraniMPathak For a transcript of this episode visit  www.shiranimpathak.com/podcast Donate to the work: Shirani on PayPal   *Some of the links used may be affiliate links. It will cost you nothing extra to use my links, but I may earn a commission if you use one of my links. This is one way to financially support the podcast.