18 Counter-Instinctual Ways To A Love-Filled Marriage

197 One of the reasons so many marriages and relationships are not as good as they could be, or are really quite painful, is that we tend to approach our relationships in instinctual ways. Since instinct often comes not from our inner wisdom (that intuition’s role), but from our inner protective patterning and our cultural conditioning, following our instinct in our relationship can often slowly –or quickly– erode the love and closeness in it. The truth is that building and maintaining the best possible marriage with our partner entails a lot of things that are not instinctual—that are actually quite counterintuitive!We want to embrace these counter-instinctual ways–and don't worry, over time they eventually do become natural or instinctual to do. But to embrace them, you need to know what they are, of course! So today I am going to share 18 counter-instinctual approaches or understandings that HEAL and CONNECT and lead to truly a fulfilling relationship with your partner.You’ll also hear about how I followed my instinct in my first marriage until I ran into the ground, what the difference is between instinct, intuition, and skill, and how when I say counter-instinctual  approaches I also mean cutting edge, and well, simply effective. Seeing as the way we have been doing relationships for the last 70 years or more is obviously not yielding the loving, secure, mutually corroborating, deeply connected marriages we really want as women,  tune in today and learn 18 of the counterintuitive things to understand and live out to make your marriage one you feel so RIGHT in, so at HOME in, and so much LOVE in.SHOW NOTES:Take the FREE QUIZ: What's Your Best Next Step To Improve Your Marriage?Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form.  SEE WHAT PAST CLIENTS HAVE TO SAY ABOUT WORKING WITH HANNAH HERE.See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3)