19 | Having Honest Sex with Shana James, Author, Relationship & Dating Coach, & TEDx Speaker

Honestly, how do you feel about your sex life? Are you giving it attention? Are your desires being met? Do you know how to ask for what you want? You're not alone if you have found sex to be a taboo, prohibitively private and misunderstood topic that has ultimately impacted the quality of your conversations and experiences, confidence, and attention on this important part of our lives. If you're keen to change this, learn more, and discover another way, this is the episode for you. Listen in to hear what's possible when you get honest, and experience honest sex! Shana James is the perfect person to help us explore what it means to have honest sex. She's a relationship and dating coach, creator and host of the Man Alive podcast, a TEDx speaker (her talk is titled, 'What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.'), and author of 'Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive' and 'Power and Pleasure: A Man's Guide to Becoming a Confident and Satisfied Lover and Leader'. Together we discuss: What is honest sex and how can that help us get turned on? Why sex is not just a genital affair How we can access orgasmic energy There’s a way to be orgasmic in the world not just in the bedroom  How to light ourselves up from the inside The turn on that’s available when we’re spontaneous.  The challenges women face in their midlife in accessing turn on sexually The power in being honest and owning that what you’re doing isn’t turning you on. saying I don’t know what turns me on anymore!’ The opportunity in midlife to have a much deeper, more honest connection Whatever your sex life is like now, there is possibility to open a doorway into a whole other universe of different, more honest, sex.  Vulnerability as foreplay.  How to begin having vulnerable honest conversations about sex Tips to ensure you don’t offend or upset a partner The importance of taking responsibility for your own pleasure What women can learn about men in midlife to assist us to have honest sex Tips for how to broach conversations with men to help you both get what you want.  Why it's worthwhile starting the conversations, and not waiting What men really want and desire from their female partners Asking for what you want and desire When is it a good time to be honest and have a conversation about sex with our partners  Where we can go for inspiration and role modelling around honest sex What’s possible in midlife when you explore honest sex.  Connect with Shana via her website: shanajamescoaching.com/ Or via Instagram @shanajames https://www.instagram.com/shanajames/