19 | The Difference between Settling and Acceptance

When life is doing shit that we don’t like, acceptance is the jumping off point, y’all. Settling is the crash landing. Or maybe it’s the getting stuck on a sandbar landing. Settling is definitely muddy and gross, and I do not wish it upon any of you beautiful souls! Acceptance, on the other hand, is key to figuring our way out of the quagmire of settling. Once we identify and accept the things we cannot change, only then can we find our way to the areas in our life where we do have agency and choice. And way more often than we tend to realize, we do have choice! We just might not like the options. But not settling for bullshit means choosing what we’re willing to tolerate in order to get what we actually want. Read the transcript at SettlingIsBullshit.comThings I reference in this episode:“WTF Is Settling is Bullsh*t?”: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2022/12/02/wtf-is-settling-is-bullsht/Designing Your Life: https://www.amazon.com/Designing-Your-Life-Well-Lived-Joyful/dp/1101875321Episode 17: A Pep Talk for PatienceEpisode 18: How Trauma Disrupts Our Capacity for JoyThe Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive/dp/B01I29Y344/