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EPISODE · Jul 3, 2025 · 29 MIN

#19 What We Get Wrong In Our Relationships

from To The Heights · host Sharon Murphy

Send us Fan MailWe all create unspoken operating manuals for the people in our lives that establish our expectations of how they should behave, think, and act. These unexpressed expectations become the source of frustration, resentment, and relationship problems when others don't follow rules they never agreed to.• Our manuals often contain "shoulds" – assumptions that others should know what we want without being told• We tie our happiness to someone else's behavior, giving away control of our emotional wellbeing• The differences that initially attracted us to our partners often become sources of frustration later• Manipulation attempts to control others and threatens their sense of free will• Opening lines of communication allows us to make requests without demands• Approaching others with curiosity rather than judgment helps us see different perspectives• Taking responsibility for our own emotions creates freedom in relationships• Setting boundaries protects us without manipulating others• Focusing on our own responses rather than controlling others reduces frustration• Humility helps us recognize that our way isn't the only right wayI'm currently offering a free mini session for any of my listeners. You can find the link in the show notes to sign up for a free 30-minute one-on-one coaching session to go deeper on any of these topics. Whether you're wanting to let go of the manuals you have for people in your life, or just want to learn more about living a life of meaning and purpose, I encourage you to take advantage of this free offering.Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ [email protected] to find out more about how I can help.  https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-callhttps://sharonkcoaching.com/https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

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