20 - You’ll achieve more in 1 year focusing on your own wellbeing...

 And I know you are going to ask… BUT HOW do I do that when addiction throws its chaos around?! How can I focus on me?And I know. I've been there too... not knowing what to do. It can feel impossible to change. Especially by yourself. You can feel completely consumed by your loved one’s state of being.We think if we love another person just a bit harder, care about them a bit more… just focus on them entirely… then they WILL get better/stay better.❓But ask yourself… how is this serving you? And is it getting the outcome you are hoping for?In this conversation, I talk about the importance of focusing on personal wellbeing when dealing with loved ones struggling with addiction - and how that is actually going to help not only you, but your loved one and your family.Here you need to recognise over-functioning behaviours, set boundaries, and take responsibility for one's own happiness. I am really encouraging you to engage in your own personal goodness and recovery and to lead by example, rather than waiting for your loved ones to change and for THAT to be the start of good things (just one of the unhelpful stories we tell ourselves).When we understand that recovery is a shared journey that requires effort from both parties - that we both have work to do here and changes to make... then we have a chance.Importantly - stop sitting in the cheap seats of your own life. You deserve better than that. Put the key to your happiness in your own pocket and take action accordingly.Key Takeaways:You will achieve more in one year focusing on your wellbeing than five years focusing on others.Over-functioning can prevent loved ones from developing their own skills and autonomy.Recognizing where you end and someone else begins is crucial for healthy relationships.Personal work is essential for navigating the complexities of addiction and recovery.Change is hard, and it requires tools and support to navigate effectively.Putting on your own oxygen mask is necessary to support others.You have the power to control your happiness and decisions.Healthy communication fosters connection and understanding in relationships.Leading by example can inspire change in loved ones.Life will not magically improve without conscious effort and personal growth.Let's get into it!Show Notes:I love getting mail! Send me an email here or [email protected] you like the weekly wellness wires emails in your inbox - Yes please!Are we Instagram friends?Book in a friendly chat: Click here to find a timeIf you'd like to implement what have been learning on the podcast Join the waitlist for the next Pathway to Wellness Coaching Program: Drop your details here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.