21: Sarah Buino: Shifting Shame & Being Visible

In this chat with the spunky Sarah Buino, we discuss her story of “Kicking and Screaming to be able to be [her] own self” and how she started her unique therapy practice, perfectionism, shifting out shame, the healing vibration in the expression of music, being visible, and how she nourishes herself to be able to be who she is in the world.Sarah Buino, LCSW, CADC, CDWF is the founder of Head/Heart Therapy, Inc. She is a licensed clinical social worker, certified addictions counselor, Certified Daring WayTM facilitator, and adjunct faculty member at Loyola University. She holds a masters degree from Loyola University in Chicago and specializes in shame and substance use disorders.From an early age, Sarah began to share the stage with her mother who was a professional singer. She sings in a local Chicago band on weekends.Sarah integrates her knowledge of complementary healing modalities such as music, yoga, reiki, and the chakra system into her clinical practice to help clients enhance their authenticity. She’s also the host of a podcast Conversations With a Wounded Healer which examines the role of one’s own healing while being a care-giving professional. Links, Article, and ResourcesAll Show Notes for This Episode📝https://candicewu.com/sarahPodcast Homepage🎧https://candicewu.com/podcastNewsletter & Embody Community💌https://candicewu.com/embody-communityCandice Wu Page on Facebook👫https://facebook.com/EmbodyYourNatureFollow Candice on Instagram📷https://instagram.com/EmbodyYourNature Sponsorship MessageThis episode is brought to you by the Soul Body Women’s Retreat that will adventure in October 2018.The Soul Body Women’s Retreat is a spiritual and healing retreat inspired to support connecting Soul and Body, the elements of Earth and Sky within, Feminine and Masculine, and all of the opposing energies within. It is a sacred intensive of meditations, yoga, family constellations, somatic healing, and soul work to deeply heal stuckness, beliefs, or ancestral bonds and embody freedom and specific personal intentions.For this and future retreats, you can find out more information at  https://candicewu.com/retreats. Your support in sharing or joining a retreat helps me make more healing albums, content, and create more podcast episodes. I am grateful for your support! Show Notes & Timestamps 00:00 Introducing Sarahs Work01:32 Sponsored Message02:46 Welcome Sarah03:07 Who Is Sarah & head/heart Therapy04:39 Mention of Sarah’s Podcast04:46 Centering in Yourself05:07 Kicking and Screaming to Be Able to Be My Own Self05:44 Her Song About Perfectionism06:54 What Do You Feel Is the Key to Healing?07:55 Mention of Brené Brown’s Work08:21 Shame Story About Parties10:10 What Surprised You in the Work of Shame?11:05 What Brings Shame to Sarah?12:08 Chicago Beeping vs Sri Lanka & Bali14:21 Daring Life Facilitator14:51 Addictions Are About Relationships16:11 Addiction Becomes the Placeholder for Loss of Connection17:05 Client Has All the Answers but They Have No Idea17:50 What Song Is Lighting Sarah Up?19:05 Patty Griffin - Living With Ghosts - Moses19:24 With Livia Budrys for Brunch19:41 Reclaiming After Grieving19:52 Susan Lipshutz’s Support20:35 A Home in Music20:56 Singing to Melt Away the Pain21:29 Vibration of Singing / Music22:02 Being Visible by Choice (Even Unknowingly)23:23 Nourishing Myself / Investing in Myself24:18 Mention of Bianka Hardin24:41 What Challenges Sarah? Building a New IOP?24:54 Mention of Robert26:17 Lovett Center28:09 Lack of Health in Treatment Centers28:50 Holding Each Other and Yourself Accountable29:29 Seeing Everything, Allowing It to Be Spoken, and Trusting It29:51 Doing Your Own Work Works!30:14 Podcasting Is Not Cheap but Worth It31:18 Healers & Therapists Are Human #NotZenAllDay31:35 Perfectionism & Being Bad at Things in Business35:31 Parallel Processes Between Healer and Client36:02 Lightning Round36:21 Q: What Job Would You Be Terrible At?36:37 Q: What Do You Spend the Most Time Thinking About?36:49 Q: What's Something You Like to Do the Old-Fashioned Way?37:09 Mercer Mayor in Social Media37:09 Shifting the Shame Out of Things37:26 Crossed Out Quote "I Felt Like Crying but I Was Brave Instead"38:10 Q: When Was the Last Time You Changed Your Opinion on Something?39:24 Q: What Is Something Most Don't Know About You?39:59 Pet Stories41:29 Anything Else Sarah Would Like to Share41:56 How to Connect With Sarah42:17 Her and Livia’s Retreat for Therapists42:47 Outro