233 The Case for ‘Boring’ Polyamory

When we're in the thick of navigating non-monogamy, especially in the early stages, it can feel like an endless emotional workout. The jealousy, the NRE highs and lows, the constant communication—it's a lot! Many people wonder if it will ever get easier or if this constant state of emotional processing is just what non-monogamy is all about. The good news? It absolutely can become more easeful! In this episode, we explore what "boring polyamory" might look like and why it might actually be a good fit for you. We challenge the assumption that non-monogamy must be inherently harder than monogamy and offer practical insights for creating more sustainable, grounded relationships. We’re breaking down: — The difference between "easy" and "easeful" in relationships — How we often mistake intensity for intimacy, and why that keeps us locked in drama cycles — The ways we unconsciously validate our non-monogamy by staying in turbulence and conflict — Why the premise that "monogamy is easier" is a harmful myth that keeps us stuck — How our nervous system awareness directly impacts our capacity for easeful relationships — The drama triangle and how it keeps us locked in unhealthy patterns — The importance of making implicit expectations explicit through clear agreements — Creating micro-spaces for reconnection and communication in your relationships — Why familiar patterns will win out over healthy ones (and what to do about it) — How to identify what a week of calm, fulfilling polyamory would look like for you Resources mentioned in this episode: — Our Drama Triangle episode JOIN The Year Of Opening® community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at ⁠⁠www.TheYearOfOpening.com⁠⁠ Learn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart way Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com Get the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything here Music: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions