236: Is BDSM a Trauma Response? | Sexuality, Validation, Disassociation & Seasons of Sex

from Feminine as F*ck · host Monica Yates

Today we are talking about Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadochism and Masochism (BDSM). I am all for BDSM, kink and all of the things, whatever your sexual fantasies are, I am here for it. Something to be mindful of is that your sexual fantasies in the bedroom should also be coming out in your life. I riff on why this is in today's episode and also dive into:  🌹 What are your sexual fantasies telling you? 🌹 How trauma can impact you in the bedroom 🌹 The difference between a trauma response and a trigger 🌹 Healing yourself and your partner through sex and intimacy 🌹 Being sexual to seek validation and wearing BDSM as badge of honour 🌹 Some questions to ask yourself ⇢ Follow Monica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth/ ⇢ Follow the Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feminineasfck/?hl=en ⇢ Listen to the Sex Life Series ep 176-179: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/176-sex-life-part-1-desire-sub-dom-f-cking-addiction/id1449633522?i=1000530862663 ⇢Join Queen Alchemy: https://monicayates.com.au/monica_work/queen-alchemy/ ⇢ BTS Bubble: https://monicayates.com.au/monica_work/monicas-bts-bubble/ ⇢  UNEDITED magazine: https://monicayates.com.au/unedited-magazine/ ⇢ Read the blog: https://monicayates.com.au/236-is-bdsm-a-trauma-response-sexuality-validation-disassociation-seasons-of-sex/ ⇢ Watch episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/rFWi544Bb84

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Today we are talking about Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadochism and Masochism (BDSM). I am all for BDSM, kink and all of the things, whatever your sexual fantasies are, I am here for it. Something to be mindful of is that your sexual fantasies in the bedroom should also be coming out in your life. I riff on why this is in today's episode and also dive into: 🌹 What are your sexual fantasies telling you? 🌹 How trauma can impact you in the bedroom 🌹 The difference between a trauma response and a trigger 🌹 Healing yourself and your partner through sex and intimacy 🌹 Being sexual to seek validation and wearing BDSM as badge of honour 🌹 Some questions to ask yourself ⇢ Follow Monica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth/ ⇢ Follow the Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/feminineasfck/?hl=en ⇢ Listen to the Sex Life Series ep 176-179: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/176-sex-life-part-1-desire-sub-dom-f-cking-addiction/id1449633522?i=1000530862663 ⇢Join Queen Alchemy: https://monicayates.com.au/monica_work/queen-alchemy/ ⇢ BTS Bubble: https://monicayates.com.au/monica_work/monicas-bts-bubble/ ⇢ UNEDITED magazine: https://monicayates.com.au/unedited-magazine/ ⇢ Read the blog: https://monicayates.com.au/236-is-bdsm-a-trauma-response-sexuality-validation-disassociation-seasons-of-sex/ ⇢ Watch episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/rFWi544Bb84

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