25. Stop Condemning, Just Listen

John Ortberg builds on a surprising Lenten invitation echoed even by the Pope: fast from harsh words. Disarm your language. Refuse contempt.John revisits what condemnation actually is — not discernment, not moral clarity — but a toxic mix of malice (ill will) and disgust (repulsion) toward another person.Then he offers one simple, powerful practice that makes condemnation nearly impossible while you’re doing it:Listen.Drawing from Scripture, including Acts 7 (where Stephen’s accusers literally cover their ears), and insights from The Lost Art of Listening by Michael Nichols and Martha Straus, John explores why we overestimate our listening ability — and why the higher our emotions run, the less we tend to listen.It turns out it’s very difficult to listen deeply and condemn someone at the same time.James writes, “Be quick to listen.”That might be the most subversive spiritual discipline of our time.Because curiosity softens judgment.Listening interrupts contempt.And blessing grows where condemnation used to live.There is now… therefore… no condemnation.📚 Today's Resources:The Lost Art of Listening by Michael P. Nichols and Martha B. StrausLeo XIV, “Listening and Fasting: Lent as a Time of Conversion,” 13 Feb 2026🙌 New episodes every weekday.📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.TEXT US at 855-888-0444EMAIL US at [email protected] OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribeGET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text BECOME to 855-888-0444SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our team😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/Music Credits:Believe Me by Glass Echoes - MB01UU8HNMQ8GT0Frost on My Window by Coldbrew - MB01IZWASF1DYPO