254 How to Figure Out What You Want and Need: An Insider’s Experience of YOO

Figuring out what your wants and needs might sound simple, but it’s often… really not.To help you navigate this question, we’re bringing you a super special episode in a never-before-seen (and possibly never to be seen again!) format. This episode is excerpted from a community call inside The Year Of Opening®, our private community for people who are on the path of individuation and de-centering monogamy. Wants and needs was a highly requested topic, and the resulting call was truly special. Everyone you’ll hear in this call consented to having the audio shared as a PWF episode, and we are thrilled to invite you into this inside peek!In this episode, we talk about:— Why many of us struggle to name our wants, and how our histories shape our relationship with desire— The difference between needs and wants, and why that distinction matters in non-monogamy— How the mono-mind limits our imagination of what's possible— The protective mechanisms we use to avoid wanting— Why some people enjoy longing and yearning while others find it unbearable— The concept of limerence and how fantasy can both serve and limit us— Using envy as a tool for desire excavation (and when envy becomes destructive)— How to create containers for exploratory conversations about desires— Why trusting your partner's "no" is essential for feeling safe to express your "yes"— The difference between wants you've been sold and wants that authentically arise from within— Practical strategies for desire excavation— How to write solo MVAs (Minimum Viable Agreements) with yourself about your boundaries and capacitiesJOIN The Year Of Opening® community for a full year of learning & supportLearn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart wayAre you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.comGet the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for a Playing With Fire Community Call hereMusic: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions