#26 Interview With Nicki Perfect, Former Hostage Negotiator & Communications Coach

In today’s episode, Fredrik, Ivan and Charlie interview a Hostage and Crisis Negotiator, turned communications coach and businesswoman, Nicki Perfect. Yes, she is Ms Perfect. She has a wide amount of knowledge to share on how to deal with life and with the people around you. Learn about the 4 different types of Listening. Nicki shares her business tips for the younger generation, especially when they are still starting out. She also gives some important advice you can use and instantly apply in your daily lives. So, Tune In! KEY TAKEAWAYS Four types of LISTENING: Solution listening. This is when you are listening to the person and automatically gives a solution when you hear something that sounds like a problem that can be resolved. Attentive listening. This is a good trait. You just attentively listen to the one talking. Competitive listening. This is when you are listening to the person and you respond automatically as if you are in competition with the person. Your response will always be greater than the one talking. Combative listening. You will always find a way to bring the conversation in your favour. Business Tips especially for young beginners: You have to find out about money. Learn about money and how you can use the money for your own advantage. Learn how you can use the money to work for you. Think about other people’s perspective. But remember that it is their perspective. It does not mean that they are always correct. There will be a lot of people that will tell you not to do something. You have to choose your own group. Surround yourself with people that you want to follow. It creates an aura of positivity and you will be more encouraged to pursue the business that you have in mind. Invest in property. You have to have multiple income streams. Having one income stream is risky. Charlie: Do you like investing in yourself?Nicki: All the time. I’ve personally invested in myself and started to learn more and more. Charlie: What does Invest in you, mean to you?Nicki: That means that you take your experiences. Good or bad. And you take your life lessons with them and you use for your next steps. And you share with all the people. Teaser messages: It is not all about you. It’s understanding that your life is all about you and what you believe to be true Live in the moment. Live in the now. It is easier said than done. We all have our story. And we are all facing our own challenges. It is okay to share that story and help others learn from it. BEST MOMENTS “I realized that world is the people you meet every day, interaction everyday. How you can change their lives?” “Listen without judgment.” “Everyday is a school day. Keep learning, keep growing all the time.” VALUABLE RESOURCES thecommunicatingcoach.co.uk Book: Routine = Results by Rob Moore ABOUT THE HOST Serial entrepreneurs Fredrik, Charlie and Ivan Sandvall love sharing ideas and interviewing world-class entrepreneurs and influences. Invest In You is about investments, entrepreneurs, personal development and doing fun things. They hope to ensure you to take action, helping others and yourself, plus enjoying the journey we call life.   CONTACT METHOD Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/investincrowd/ Crowdfunding platform - https://investincrowd.envestry.com/deals Your Property Puzzle Limited - https://investincrowd.envestry.com/deals/1922 ABOUT THE GUEST Nicky retired from the Metropolitan Police in January 2018. After 30 years. For over a decade, she was a Hostage and Crisis Negotiator, becoming the lead for UK Hostage and Crisis Negotiation training and travelling the world teaching these and communication skills to police officers and military personnel. She was also deployed internationally working with the Foreign and Commonwealth Office helping those who had been kidnapped or caught up in terrorist incidents. She now has 4 businesses of her own, including coaching others in communication and behaviour change. CONTACT GUEST Nicky can be found at www.thecommunicationcoach.co.uk or on Twitter and Facebook @Nickycommscoach