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267. Your Identity Shift Feels Like Sh*t? Good. Keep Going!

Episode 267 of the The Subconscious Expert podcast, hosted by Rebecca Haydon, Mindset Coach & NLP Trainer, titled "267. Your Identity Shift Feels Like Sh*t? Good. Keep Going!" was published on February 3, 2026 and runs 27 minutes.

February 3, 2026 ·27m · The Subconscious Expert

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You did the work. You made the identity shifts. So why does becoming your "higher self" feel less like power and more like... boredom? Or grief? Or just plain weird?

Here's what no one tells you about an identity shift: it doesn't always feel good. Sometimes it feels like death. And that space between your old identity and who you're becoming? I call it the void. And it's where I see so many people quit, not because the work isn't working, but because unfamiliar feels unsafe.


In today's episode, I'm getting into what's actually happening beneath the surface when you're in the void. Why your nervous system might be pulling you back to chaos (even when you wanted calm). Why that "bored" feeling might actually be your true self showing up. And I'm walking you through NLP techniques and subconscious reprogramming practices to anchor into your next-level identity when the self sabotage behaviour kicks in.


If you've been doing the deep work and wondering why it feels harder than everyone makes it look... This one's for you!


Topics covered on Identity Shifts:

  1. Why does stepping out of your comfort zone feel like something's wrong with you?
  2. What is "the void" and why do so many people quit right before their identity shift clicks?
  3. Why does your old identity get louder the closer you get to change?
  4. Is that "bored" feeling actually your nervous system recalibrating? Or have you lost your spark?
  5. How do you stop self sabotaging when your brain keeps pulling you back to old patterns?
  6. What does parts work look like when a protective part won't go quietly?
  7. Which NLP techniques actually help you anchor a new identity (not just visualise it)?
  8. Why has your success been built on panic? And what happens when you finally create safety?


Connect with Rebecca Haydon:

  1. Apply to work with me
  2. The Subconscious Membership
  3. Come say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube


Find the full show notes & more resources at rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/your-identity-shift-feels-like-sht-good-keep-going

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